keeping women interested

[footballfan]

I'm writing this, cause I need advice on how to chat to a girl I've never met before on msn, without boring her. Every time I get in contact with a girl for the first time, everything is good, for like the first few days. Then almost like clockwork I run out of things to talk about, so she ends up getting bored. I end up asking loads of questions, and ends up like I'm interviewing her. lol
I've just had two girls wink me, and add me to msn today. They are online now, but I'm in hidden mode, cause I'm too scared to mess up and I'm determined not to mess up this time.......I gotta get a date with at least one of them! lol
Someone help me from being boring! pleeeeeeaseeee!! lol

 

[GloomySunday]

First of all, hat off to you for trying! It takes a lot of courage to do what you're doing.

I think it all depends upon where you meet them in the first place. For example if you met them on an online forum for your favourite football team or a band that you're really into then you will have something fundamental in common immediately, and therefore plenty to talk about.

I think talking to anyone without having any initial common ground whatsoever is always going to be difficult, even for the most confident of people.

But conversation is also a two way thing. You shouldn't feel like you need to be the one in the driving seat. It's great that you ask questions. Ideally they should ask you some in return! If they're not forthcoming then either consider asking more "open" questions, the kind that don't require a definite answer (for example, "What do you think about..?" or "What's your opinion on..?" or "Why do you think that..?") or just accept that they're probably not that interested in you and move on...as much as that may hurt!

The journey to finding love and happiness is never easy, but when you get there it's always worth it! Don't give up.

 

[gobbledegook]

8O Nice to know I was added to your collection man, I feel so special!

 

[footballfan]

gloomy sunday, I just gotta say from reading your other posts, that you always have great advice for people, thanks. lol
yeah we have no common interest yet, just two random people that never met. I'll try asking more open questions. But the thing I'm really bad at is banter (I think that's what it's called), where two people can sit there and make conversation about one little thing, and it lasts ages (hope this makes sense). Any tips on how to do this??

kate, no need to be offended, I still talk to you on swp chat sometimes, when I have the courage to go in there! lol
and I never tried to chat to you, to get a date, so you aint part of a collection of girls I failed with either.


Man I need to work on my social skills! haha

 

[gobbledegook]

tis cool

 

[weak]

Have conversations less frequently. Switch from everyday to once every 3 or 4 days.