Juvenile mind?
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reslo
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i relate to a lot of what you're saying! I have issues with taking initiative- which have gotten worse and worse over the past few years. Like in school, i would always be doing assignments last minute, but in college i found myself sometimes not even doing them at all (despite ample time).
Also too in school, we're taught to follow directions, don't speak unless you're called on, but in the workforce (i've found) you aren't always going to be told exactly what to do- you have take initiative and try to solve your own problems, so i think there is a big gap between what we're taught & what is required in the real world.
i think probably all SAers create a bubble between them and the outside (i spent a lot of my childhood alone in my room, watching tv, or even just staring at the wall) and yeah i missed out on a lot, and if i had done things when i was a lot younger they wouldn't have become such issues now~
i have a hard time giving my opinions, but i just try to remember that when people ask me my opinion, that they usually do want my opinion~ and that most other people really aren't huge geniuses- they're just using what they have & know like anybody else.
i've noticed also "outgoing" people make mistakes~ they just don't obsess on them for inordinate amounts of time
i don't really have a good answer for how to take iniative- since i have the same problem- but i could spend a lifetime sitting around waiting for someone to tell me what to do, and the thought of that is usually enough to at least get me to do something!
Also too in school, we're taught to follow directions, don't speak unless you're called on, but in the workforce (i've found) you aren't always going to be told exactly what to do- you have take initiative and try to solve your own problems, so i think there is a big gap between what we're taught & what is required in the real world.
i think probably all SAers create a bubble between them and the outside (i spent a lot of my childhood alone in my room, watching tv, or even just staring at the wall) and yeah i missed out on a lot, and if i had done things when i was a lot younger they wouldn't have become such issues now~
i have a hard time giving my opinions, but i just try to remember that when people ask me my opinion, that they usually do want my opinion~ and that most other people really aren't huge geniuses- they're just using what they have & know like anybody else.
i've noticed also "outgoing" people make mistakes~ they just don't obsess on them for inordinate amounts of time
i don't really have a good answer for how to take iniative- since i have the same problem- but i could spend a lifetime sitting around waiting for someone to tell me what to do, and the thought of that is usually enough to at least get me to do something!
PennyLane
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I'm the opposite, I hate having help from anyone. I literally struggle to accept anyone even giving me advice. I have this obsession with being seen as weak, therefore I hate ever being told what to do, think or act...even when I know its the right advice or I know they mean it for my own good.
Unless I have full and total control over everything in my life I freak out.
Unless I have full and total control over everything in my life I freak out.