JUST DO IT!!!!

[ShyBeliever]

This week was the party week for colleges of my city. there were parties everyday and i didnt miss one. but i was terrified before because i know how i behave in parties: always having a non-talking attitude, shy, not a fun guy, etc etc....but this week...it was diferent: i had fun (without alcohol ;P )....i tried to talk of everything to my friends, even to people i barely know..even my friends told to me to shut up lol....it was an amazing experience and i even couldn´t recognize myself. I knew many new people and they were nice with me and called me a fun guy (i never heard anyone calling me that lol) I still have the feelling that all this will be over in the next days and im going back to my old behaviour...but im analyzing myself now and i think i reached a conclusion.

I think that what was changed in this week was my courage to talk, i had the guts to begin a conversation with people independently of the topic. Yeah i felt nervous to do it but i tried (shakingly at first) and things ran very well. Oh man i believe i can have a week like this again...just have to believe it and the courage to do it. I think courage is the key: if you feel that is difficult to go shopping, to call someone to do sthg with you, to go to cinema, to get out of your house, dont pay attention to your nervousness and other physical symptoms.......JUST DO IT!!! DO IT DAMN IT!!!! and if things didnt run very well at least you tried.. but PERSIST AND DO IT AGAIN!!!!.....im trying to think like that right now... im gonna call a friend right now and im a little nervous (i would be totally nervous before this week) but im gonna do it.

Other aspect which i think is important (at least for me) is the fact that im just gonna.......stop playing video games and watch tv.... because i think we are enslaved by the media. these activities are not productive and dont have any sense. I was a tottaly addicted in World of Warcraft (and i still am if im back to it now) but i think playing this kind of games just make me worse and isolate me from the rest of the world. TV is the same...watching a basketball game is not the same as playing basketball with our friends...we are just isolated watching a stupid screen, distant from society
Without TV and computer i think im gonna go crazy... but i think this attitude will oblige me to get out of my house and do something....just do something.

Sorry if i wasnt clear and have a nice day everyone!!!

P.S: i was a bit reluctant to write this post because im usually nervous even in posting in this forum...but the hell with it....i just wrote it

 

[nope1]

Wow, happy to hear that you're making progress. It's true that you need courage to do something that you fear the most. And I've read numerous article about how you need to love yourself and to not punish yourself about stuff that's happened to you and to learn from them.

I used to do that. Just to talk to people in those situations, just talk about different subject until my parents told me that I've been been bitten by a social talking disorder (as a joke) because I talked too much.

But the thing that I have a problem with is the intimate relationship (friendship) with people. It's like I freak out. I have no idea why. It's like I can't handle it.
Maybe it's because I didn't have a good high school years. I was sort of the outcast. Bah, I'm just thinking

How do you handle that intimate part?

Other aspect which i think is important (at least for me) is the fact that im just gonna.......stop playing video games and watch tv.... because i think we are enslaved by the media. these activities are not productive and dont have any sense. I was a totally addicted in World of Warcraft (and i still am if im back to it now) but i think playing this kind of games just make me worse and isolate me from the rest of the world. TV is the same...watching a basketball game is not the same as playing basketball with our friends...we are just isolated watching a stupid screen, distant from society
Without TV and computer i think im gonna go crazy... but i think this attitude will oblige me to get out of my house and do something....just do something.

It's true. When I didn't have the internet nor TV. I was forced to go to the University's library and do my work... and to call a few people because I had nothing to do. The computer really isolate me. And I think TV too.
I wish I could go to another place, no internet, no TV. That will definitely force myself to go out in the world...

But continue! And please, can you post your progress?

 

[ShyBeliever]

Yeah man..i really understand your situation..believe me because i think i have problems in developing intimacy too. Im working on that too. I think frindship with a person may be developed if you do something with that person like asking to go for a coffe, club, to go to gym, to do something at your house together (well video games may be useful here lol), to study together, etc etc etc.
Well im gonna try to convince myself to have the guts to invite people to do some activities..thats gonna be my solution right now and it will be hard i know...i will be nervous and shake but..the hell..just have to do it.
Its like driving, at first everybody is always affraid but then we get used to it.

Yeah ok..i´ll try to report my progress...the same to you man... :wink:

I wish all the good luck to you