Ive just recently started job hunting again, I haven't worked for over 2 years due to not feeling up to it with the anxiety etc. Im getting really fed up of not working and feel a strong urge to get a job and make some sort of life for myself and try and make some decent friends and find a nice girl (who i can take out with the money from a job). I also want to get my car back on the road I miss driving and it made me feel more confident. Ive had about three jobs but they didnt last long roughly about a month and less, I left because I didnt feel comfortable making no friends and finding it difficult to socialise with the staff etc. I understand its a hard time to succesfully find work due to the credit crunch and probably even harder for me with my poor work history/experience and my 2 years not working. Im curious to know what you guys think do you think it will be extremely difficult for me to get a job or acheivable. Its really getting on my tits I just want to get out and earn money Ive been unemployed for too long I want to do things everyone else is doing buy what I want and travel a bit. Im 22 so im at that age that i need to give myself a kick up the ass and sort it out. Is/was anyone else in the same situation and did you succesfully find work or are you still looking? My SA hasnt improved so it is an issue but im willing to try my best I cant be leaving it any later i definately want a job this year.
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Annmarie Edward
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Job,office politics.. they're nightmare for me. You also need a lot of pointless socialization to keep it which is of almost impossible for us, SA.
In the past I was never last in 9-5 for more than a month, got fire a lot. But right now I have my own retail store and my life is a lot happier.
In the past I was never last in 9-5 for more than a month, got fire a lot. But right now I have my own retail store and my life is a lot happier.
lithiumflower
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Good luck to you. I really do hope that you’ll find something. After trying out a four year school program but finishing only a two year one back in 2005, I spent quite some time without a job. Then I signed up with a few temp agencies (at times it was pure hell and at others it was okay) but eventually I found a job as a data processor in 2006. I’ve been here ever since. It isn’t something that I love (I haven’t figured that part out yet) but it’s paying the bills and tolerable for the most part.
Seems like a lot of us are in similar situations. I'm 24 still in uni but. Need to find work to support myself. Haven't worked in almost 2 years and don't have proper references cause I quit my last job after a week (pathetic huh?) I find it very difficult to work just about every job requires a lot of social interactment. I wish you all (and myself 
) luck finding a job.
) luck finding a job.DownInAHole
Well-known member
I just graduated with my degree, and am currently out in the job market.
I haven't worked the last couple years, which I really regret. Before that I held down a job in sales for 2 1/2 years and actually made a lot of friends, went to parties, and was much happier. I actually want a job that pushes me out of my comfort zone socially, because it really helps.
I haven't worked the last couple years, which I really regret. Before that I held down a job in sales for 2 1/2 years and actually made a lot of friends, went to parties, and was much happier. I actually want a job that pushes me out of my comfort zone socially, because it really helps.
BeachGaBulldog
Active member
Here is my story. I haven't worked in almost 3 years, and because I haven't earned enough money, I am not eligible for unemployment. The state of Florida is so clueless. So, I am living with my aunt.
I have a crappy job history. I have worked mostly office and warehouse jobs. I will work at a place for awhile, then get tired of it. Not the job so much as the people. Its just that I have always been quiet and like to keep to myself. Others assume that I am a snob, but I am just not a talker.
As for job hunting, I go to job fairs, do the resume thing, etc. I know that I don't work well around a lot of people. It would be awesome if I had a job where I was by myself, but that ain't happening. Life f****** sucks, and so does Florida Unemployment.
I have a crappy job history. I have worked mostly office and warehouse jobs. I will work at a place for awhile, then get tired of it. Not the job so much as the people. Its just that I have always been quiet and like to keep to myself. Others assume that I am a snob, but I am just not a talker.
As for job hunting, I go to job fairs, do the resume thing, etc. I know that I don't work well around a lot of people. It would be awesome if I had a job where I was by myself, but that ain't happening. Life f****** sucks, and so does Florida Unemployment.
wayfarerfree
Member
Ive been out of work for 3 years, after the end of a very bad relationship that wiped me out and totally formatted my heart/body and soul.
Im only just beginning to realise how much of a socia-phobe Ive become.
I dont like the bitchy, two faced attitudes I encounter these days.
Even if I wasnt anxious, Id probably seem wierd, cos Im normally quiet by nature, dont feel the need to prove myself. But trying to exist around people these days, I'd catch myself trying to play the same games. I think its these shallow games that depress me the most.
(lol! Just realised Im repeating more or less what you said above, Itay. I feel the same way. I wouldnt mind if people could just leave you be instead of turning on you.
This is why I prefer rural jobs. More personal space, and maybe more respect for a persons individuality. City values, I find, are a little twisted.
Ive found the only realm I can function in is caring for other folk who get marginalised, because I empathise with them more - its not what I want to do in life, but its what comes most naturally to me. Bills are bills. I hope to get out of this rut very soon, having a job wont make all my nervy-ness or depression go away, but its a slightly healthier life than staring at the walls all day, and not interacting with anyone at all.
Im only just beginning to realise how much of a socia-phobe Ive become.
I dont like the bitchy, two faced attitudes I encounter these days.
Even if I wasnt anxious, Id probably seem wierd, cos Im normally quiet by nature, dont feel the need to prove myself. But trying to exist around people these days, I'd catch myself trying to play the same games. I think its these shallow games that depress me the most.
(lol! Just realised Im repeating more or less what you said above, Itay. I feel the same way. I wouldnt mind if people could just leave you be instead of turning on you.
This is why I prefer rural jobs. More personal space, and maybe more respect for a persons individuality. City values, I find, are a little twisted.
Ive found the only realm I can function in is caring for other folk who get marginalised, because I empathise with them more - its not what I want to do in life, but its what comes most naturally to me. Bills are bills. I hope to get out of this rut very soon, having a job wont make all my nervy-ness or depression go away, but its a slightly healthier life than staring at the walls all day, and not interacting with anyone at all.
I wouldnt mind if people could just leave you be instead of turning on you.
wayfarerfree, its so true what you're saying, i'm hated where i work because i mind my own business and the ackward thing is that whenever i try to open my self and approach collegues, because of my role in the company (i'm the sysadmin and i become useful when someone can't figure out something on their computers) they take advantage of me seeing that i'm an insecure person, then i react and things get personal with people so things get ackward.
And when i'm not at work, and i meet new people i can even be outgoing and chattable at the beggingins because i like to use this technique to overcome fear, but then afterwards because i try to relax my self and tend to talk less and appear less enjoyble, people think i've got something wrong with them or that i don't like them, and they get like offended (because at the begging before knowing each other i'd appear like another person) and they turn away, so things get difficult for me and i close myself even more, i'll talk to them less and approach them not so often anymore and when i'll do they'll pick on me so i'll not go to them anymore and things end up like that. This is a major problem cause i'll never have a girl like this.
wayfarerfree, its so true what you're saying, i'm hated where i work because i mind my own business and the ackward thing is that whenever i try to open my self and approach collegues, because of my role in the company (i'm the sysadmin and i become useful when someone can't figure out something on their computers) they take advantage of me seeing that i'm an insecure person, then i react and things get personal with people so things get ackward.
And when i'm not at work, and i meet new people i can even be outgoing and chattable at the beggingins because i like to use this technique to overcome fear, but then afterwards because i try to relax my self and tend to talk less and appear less enjoyble, people think i've got something wrong with them or that i don't like them, and they get like offended (because at the begging before knowing each other i'd appear like another person) and they turn away, so things get difficult for me and i close myself even more, i'll talk to them less and approach them not so often anymore and when i'll do they'll pick on me so i'll not go to them anymore and things end up like that. This is a major problem cause i'll never have a girl like this.
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