Is your love/sex life only virtual?

[da_illest101]

So for the past 10 years or so, my love and sex life has been virtual ( minus the time I lost my virginity)98% of it in front of my computer and the rest by text messages or phone.

For about a year I have this empty feeling inside of me. I just feel like I wasted years of my life visiting various sites, chatting with various profiles, watching various things and got absolutely nothing in return. Never mind I did get a bad arm, neck and lower back from it.

Today as went on okcupid and other sites to check profiles I asked myself what's the point? Why do I continue wasting so much of my time doing the same things for the past 10 years when I could be doing something else? I think I reach the point where I over did it on both the love and sex part online.

It's not a question of hoping to have more luck in real life, it's more about stopping doing something that never got me anywhere. If you have success with it, you are one lucky person

 

[ShelbyModerateSP]

I've had success with Okcupid, I don't like dating now but you just have to get the confindence to meet them in person... which i know..is VERY hard to do...

 

[Gaucho]

hello,

hehe i had to lough little bit because how you explained it. the arm thing

maybe over the years it turned into a addiction and you didn't realize it, because it was one of the few things in life that made you feel excited/motivated/good.

 

[da_illest101]

hello,

hehe i had to lough little bit because how you explained it. the arm thing

maybe over the years it turned into a addiction and you didn't realize it, because it was one of the few things in life that made you feel excited/motivated/good.

it's exactly that, doing my best to stay away but it's not working much

 

[da_illest101]

I've had success with Okcupid, I don't like dating now but you just have to get the confindence to meet them in person... which i know..is VERY hard to do...

it is, but my problem is how much time I'm devoting to it. My health did suffer a lot from it

 

[Canis lupus]

it's exactly that, doing my best to stay away but it's not working much

Quiting an addiction practicly never works from the first time. I stopped smoking weed 3 months ago after 2 years of failing and still I have problems staying away. About two weeks ago I was with a friend who was smoking and I couldn't resist. I used to beat me up about it all the time. I was weak, I would never be able to quit and so on. But my psychologist kept telling me it's normal that you fail a few, or in my case many times before you actually stop. I didn't believe her back then but now I'm sure I'll be able to put it behind me completly some day. So don't beat yourself up too much if it doesn't work immediatly. Just hold on to the feeling of wanting to quit and sooner or later you will succeed. Babysteps, you'll get there.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I've never had a love life or sex life and I'm now 30 years old. But if I were to have either, they would have to be virtual.