Orlando
Well-known member
Hi, everyone.
I wanted to ask anyone out there if they had any opinions about FLURTING. For me, it is a word that is taboo. When I was in grade school and high school, I got teased by a lot of girls. I don't know what hurt more the insults from my female or male classmates. There was this one whole group of girls that I was the butt of their jokes. They thought that I liked them even thought I didn't. They would test me, like walk in front of me or sit near me. If I looked in thier direction, then they would laugh, giggle, talk about me, and make their private jokes. I was just a teenager then so I was just getting around to fitting into my identity as a 'guy.' Well, it didn't go well. Actually, it sucked. I never really looked at myself as a 'man.' My view of religion when I was growing up didn't help either. I thought sex was dirty, something to be ashamed of.
Even now, with my current interest in Melyssa, I sometimes feel that I must be the perfect gentleman that means to just look at her in a pure light, not acknowledging her physical attractiveness to myself or to anyone else. It's this idea that I have of being a knight, being pure (kinda like Lancelot).
I have this guilt when I talk to any girl. I worry that they might feel that I'm trying to pick them up. It's like I'll just be talking to someone and then I'll think "Oh F&%$, I think she thinks I like her. What am I going to do? What if other people find out. They will think I just a jerk and no one is going to talk to me." Yuck.
I think this comes up because I posted a response to Modelfear. Now she is a model who has been photographed pages of magazines (and I am aware that she has a boyfriend! and I'm trying to date Melyssa so I not trying to pick her up.) For this whole weekend, I was thinking,"Oh my gosh, everyone on this website is going to hate me and think that I'm a lousy jerk." Oh man, I hate this guilt.
It gets in the way of me relating to any woman. I'm worried that I am offending them.
Does anyone feel the same way or have some advice for me?
Actually, I want to know what other people feel about flurting? What do you think it is? What is appropriate flurting? What is inappropriate? Is it OK to flurt with friends (just joking around, not really persuing any agenda, really just joking around!)?
What do you think? You would really help me if I can get your opinions. I need to change my perspective. Thanks
I wanted to ask anyone out there if they had any opinions about FLURTING. For me, it is a word that is taboo. When I was in grade school and high school, I got teased by a lot of girls. I don't know what hurt more the insults from my female or male classmates. There was this one whole group of girls that I was the butt of their jokes. They thought that I liked them even thought I didn't. They would test me, like walk in front of me or sit near me. If I looked in thier direction, then they would laugh, giggle, talk about me, and make their private jokes. I was just a teenager then so I was just getting around to fitting into my identity as a 'guy.' Well, it didn't go well. Actually, it sucked. I never really looked at myself as a 'man.' My view of religion when I was growing up didn't help either. I thought sex was dirty, something to be ashamed of.
Even now, with my current interest in Melyssa, I sometimes feel that I must be the perfect gentleman that means to just look at her in a pure light, not acknowledging her physical attractiveness to myself or to anyone else. It's this idea that I have of being a knight, being pure (kinda like Lancelot).
I have this guilt when I talk to any girl. I worry that they might feel that I'm trying to pick them up. It's like I'll just be talking to someone and then I'll think "Oh F&%$, I think she thinks I like her. What am I going to do? What if other people find out. They will think I just a jerk and no one is going to talk to me." Yuck.
I think this comes up because I posted a response to Modelfear. Now she is a model who has been photographed pages of magazines (and I am aware that she has a boyfriend! and I'm trying to date Melyssa so I not trying to pick her up.) For this whole weekend, I was thinking,"Oh my gosh, everyone on this website is going to hate me and think that I'm a lousy jerk." Oh man, I hate this guilt.
It gets in the way of me relating to any woman. I'm worried that I am offending them.
Does anyone feel the same way or have some advice for me?
Actually, I want to know what other people feel about flurting? What do you think it is? What is appropriate flurting? What is inappropriate? Is it OK to flurt with friends (just joking around, not really persuing any agenda, really just joking around!)?
What do you think? You would really help me if I can get your opinions. I need to change my perspective. Thanks