I'm scared guys...

[Nack]

Im scared of my life ahead. I know im only 19 and some people will say that you still have a lot of time to find yourself and all that. But, I'm scared of things like not finding a spouse, not going to have kids. Hell! im still having trying to find my first job!

I don't want to end up living under my mom's roof! And really don't want to end up being 30 year's old and never had a love relationship with anyone!

I'm trying so hard to break my social anxiety, forcing myself to do things i dont like and i'm still suffering! It feels like time is getting shorter and shorter for me. I don't know what else there is there to do. I need a hand to lift me up from my misery, give me a starting point where i can change my life. I can't do this by myself!

ARGGHHH!!! :x :x :x

 

[lonely_world]

Believe me, I wish that I was 19 again, so I would know what my future would be like today at 32-majorly sad,scary and lonely. I would of took my life a heck of alot more serious than I did at 19, but the sad thing is is that i'm not any different now then I was at 19. But I am worse off because of all the damage over the years with struggling to get and keep jobs, make friends, having to rely on shelters,welfare,having unhealthy relationships, being very bitter and angry, man I could go on all day. So, my advice to you would be to really take your life serious because it will not get better if you don't. If I knew how my life would evenyually turn out, I think I would of joined the military to toughen me up and give me more confidence that I am so very lacking. God I need a beer....

 

[lonely_world]

Believe me, I wish that I was 19 again, so I would know what my future would be like today at 32-majorly sad,scary and lonely. I would of took my life a heck of alot more serious than I did at 19, but the sad thing is is that i'm not any different now then I was at 19. But I am worse off because of all the damage over the years with struggling to get and keep jobs, make friends, having to rely on shelters,welfare,having unhealthy relationships, being very bitter and angry, man I could go on all day. So, my advice to you would be to really take your life serious because it will not get better if you don't. If I knew how my life would evenyually turn out, I think I would of joined the military to toughen me up and give me more confidence that I am so very lacking. God I need a beer....

 

[JamesAnderson20]

I don't really have any advice except that you need to take control of your life. Find the root of your problems, and do whatever it takes to fix it. If its Social Anxiety that's holding you back, then fix that. You'll probably need help to do it, somebody just to back you up. Social Anxiety is definately cureable, but it can also fuck up your life to a point beyond repair, so don't get complacent and do what you have to, I know it sounds impossible, it isn't, not if you make the effort. Just be ready for setbacks.

 

[carsickcars]

get professional help as soon as possible. don't be like me and let the years go by without doing anything. i kept telling myself i would get better over time, but my SA got worse and worse.

 

[Richey]

i was lucky to find a casual job in a large chain at sixteen and i have experience in several areas and still im stuggling to find work becaue of the market, so in regards to work experience and a career path, don't wait! because the sooner you earn a wage you'll be adding to your super-annuation and you'll be well regarded if you apply for other jobs in the future ...

even if you go to university try and find a part time job as well to spruce up your resume for the future...

 

[Tab]

Tell you the truth, this past summer I had my first job. I was 19 and at first I found it ok, as time went on though I felt ppl started to hate me or find me 'odd' so at the end of the summer I quit. I need to find a new job for this summer, I don't think I will though and I'll probably go back to my old one and hate every second of it. I did everything I was asked and worked on days that no one else wanted to but I still came in cuz I was afraid to say no. Anyway, the only thing I can suggest to you is to try and get some sort of mental help. Talk to your doctor first, thats what I did. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do but I'm glad I did. I know you think you can't do it, but it's not as bad as you think. Yes before you go will be hell, but afterwards you feel sooo relieved. I know the first time I saw my doctor I felt like I was going to die but some how someway, I went. I don't think I can change your opinion but you just have to take my word for it.

 

[jayBDee]

Yeah, don't wait to get help. Sometimes you can only get so far with self-help. You are young but that doesn't mean you can't have goals. At 27, I wish I could say that things get easier. Not to be "bob bummer" but SA has always been a battle the majority of my life. I do think things would be a lot worse if I didn't try though.

 

[Nack]

Hey thanks for the reply guys, your advices really calmed me down. I know that i should seek help with a professional. But, the thing is that i don't really know where to look first, plus how much it would cost. I'm already having trouble trying to pay for my college tuition. My family is on Welfare which makes it worst. So, basically we are so close to being homeless...