I'm A Social Reject!!!!!

[BedHead08]

When you can't make friends in real life & online what do you do?
I just don't know anymore. I'm at my wits end! I thought I was hiding
my SAD pretty well from my online friends but I guess I was wrong.
I feel like such a social reject!!!!!

 

[xSleepy]

ill be your friend i know how hard it can be. and just because things havent worked out for you up to now, it doesnt mean it will be like this forever.

 

[Sapphira]

Just curious... but why do you hide your anxiety? I've found that people are much more understanding if I'm open with them about my fears, thoughts, etc... and in most cases, people open up in return and sometimes can relate a little better.

 

[xSleepy]

i hide mine too. well from people who i know. i havent told anyone about my SP. Buti think if i trusted someone enough to know they wont go blabbling about it to everyone or they wont make fun of me, then maybe ill tell them.
telling someone you have SP isnt easy

 

[Some_guy]

I think we all felt like that at least once in our lives.

What you got to remember is that there's nothing wrong with you, but if anything then it's in the way you act (which can be changed).

For example, it's kinda hard to befriend someone that's always avoidant. Anyone being avoidant will encounter a problem befriending other people, not just you.

That's the trap of SP: it makes you think you're unlikable when actually, it's the habits formed by SP that bring the unlikable factor.

Just don't take things personally

 

[ripewithdecay]

I think we all felt like that at least once in our lives.

What you got to remember is that there's nothing wrong with you, but if anything then it's in the way you act (which can be changed).

For example, it's kinda hard to befriend someone that's always avoidant. Anyone being avoidant will encounter a problem befriending other people, not just you.

That's the trap of SP: it makes you think you're unlikable when actually, it's the habits formed by SP that bring the unlikable factor.

Just don't take things personally

You have to remind yourself about this again and again, you may not believe it sometimes, but just keep reminding yourself.

 

[BedHead08]

Thanx everyone for your kind words. What you said Some_guy
really struck me. When I feel like a social reject
(which is often) I will definitely remind myself of that.

I would like to be your friend too SleepingBeauty.
I think your duckie avatar is super cute!

 

[Sponglewang]

Everybody I know knows about all my stuff but I guess social phobia is not a biggie 4 me whereas OCD is... I realise that I am very lucky tho to have the friends that I do that are really understanding and just cool ppl.
When u do feel ready to venture into the world and to make friends and u feel ready to tell them about your stuff if thier real friends they won't judge or reject you and if they do theyre not worth knowing... thats wot I rekon.

In the meantime you'll always have friends in aplace like this