If you COULD do it, WOULD you?

[theman]

If you could snap your fingers and be rid of your phobias and anxiety, would you?

By that I mean, if you could snap your fingers and be a person who experiences acceptance and rejection regularly, and calmly and not be crushed by it, would you?

Part of being 'normal' is being non-resistant and unaffected by becoming 'popular' and also being disliked, and having neither of these statuses derail you. Would you be ok if you were over your social phobias? Would you still like yourself? Why or why not?

 

[Moonie]

In a heartbeat.

I am sick of living this way. I am sure it has done me some good in the past, but it does nothing for me now. It prevents me from living fully.

 

[livingnsilence]

I would do it b/c I'd get to be myself again without the anxiety which means I'd be able to do the things I enjoy which means I'd more than likely be happy and so long as I'm happy who cares what other people think

 

[Infected_Malignity]

i wouldn't change a single bit of it.

i don't know what the fuck's gotten into my head recently, but i think it's satan himself. i almost feel immune to the waking world around me. i have absolutely no desire to ever become confident, to ever be looked up to, or to ever conquer this whole 'social anxiety' mess whatsoever. or even fucking change myself in the slightest. i've hit an extreme low. normally this would make somebody out-of-their-mind depressed, but i've been feeling quite the contrary.

since i have no objections to any of it (i welcome both depression and social anxiety with open arms), neither one's done jack shit to affect me this past week. i've been taking risks, going out of my way to purposely face rejection, and having a blast along the way. sure it could come back to haunt me in the future, but hey... i hope it does! half of the time, being self sabotaging and hating myself makes me feel really good, and i couldn't tell you why.

weather i'm fucked up or not on this issue, i wouldn't change a damn thing. it's all a game to me. nothing matters. confronting people and facing challenges alone has been my reason to wake up in the morning. i want to fail, i want to face rejection. all of it can be learned from so it makes my adrenaline pump and my heart race... in a completely new way!

 

[Psychedelicious]

I really don't know. Part of me says yes of course I would, but I also feel like it wouldn't be me any more. I don't want to be normal by any means, I just want to be happy.

 

[Day_Tripper]

If you could snap your fingers and be rid of your phobias and anxiety, would you?

By that I mean, if you could snap your fingers and be a person who experiences acceptance and rejection regularly, and calmly and not be crushed by it, would you?

Yes. But with me, it's not social phobia really. I just wish my ability to hold a normal, interesting conversation would improve.

 

[Luna]

I guess it would be nice to be a little more "normal" in the sense that I'd stand up for myself a little more and not be so AFRAID of someone being mad at me or getting into an argument with someone. I bend over backwards to avoid an argument and I know this limits my life.

However, I do think that individuals with SA tend to be very introspective, intelligent, and creative, and if it weren't for my SA that allows me to think so introvertedly and create fiction from it, I'd probably only be preoccupied with gabbing about shopping, mortgages, or television.

 

[Lemans]

Yes, I'd accept it, though I must say that I'm not unhappy with my life, in fact I affirm that I'm happy. I don't get to have a relationship with a lot of people but then I have a lot of time to read, hear music or do other activities that I enjoy immeasurably. Happiness is an option: you either choose it or not, and I chose it some years ago.

I was like crazy when I was younger trying to get a girlfriend, in fact I was obsessed and very depressed due to my ineptitude in amorous affairs, and did very stupid things and even considered suicide, and I kissed a girl for the first time when I was 28, the only girlfriend I've ever had, though it was a short-lived relation. But I suppose that my sexual horniness has cooled off, though some might say that I'm still young (I'm 31)

 

[IWouldPreferNotTo]

Of course. I could actually live a normal life. I wouldn't worry so much about what to say. I could actually ask girls out. I've found that in situations where not I'm nervous, I have no problem coming up with things to say and can be funny, but it's the nervousness that prevents me from taking a risk at saying something.

 

[Some_guy]

I feel I'm an impulsive and an extrovert, held back by anxieties.

Hell yeah, I would!

 

[livingnsilence]

I feel I'm an impulsive and an extrovert, held back by anxieties.

Hell yeah, I would!

I know for sure without my anxiety I'm an extrovert b/c before I had SA I was pretty outgoing, loved meeting new people, loved being goofy, loved being the center of attention, and loved taking risks. I don't feel like myself with SA b/c deep down I still want to do these things but I can't b/c i'm to afraid, when I'm sitting being quiet, and being nice to everyone, rarely joining in on the fun I feel so fake.

 

[slimjim119]

If I could get rid of my anxiety in an instant I definitely would. I think my body would be in shock if that happened. I'm so use to having it. I have developed a tougher attitude over the years so what other people say or do doesn't bother me that much anymore. It's the way of the world. I think having social anxiety has made me more sensitive to other people's problems and I wouldn't want to lose that. But I would love to be more outgoing without fear.

 

[theman]

Those of you who said you would - why would you? I'm curious -

 

[Caseums21]

I would without hesitation. I didn't always have phobias and anxiety so I know how it felt to live without them. I never worried about getting sick in public, making excuses after excuses not to go out, and I feel that I would have been in college already.

I had a plan for my life and so far, I'm behind in that. I even get sick at home. I have 11 godchildren and they live about 15 minutes away from me. I rarely see them and I feel like I'm missing out in their lives.

I want kids of my own but I know that if I'm always sick, that will make them suffer at times. I would love to be a good mom but there are times that I can't even get out of bed. I have a dog and I sometimes have a hard time getting up to let her outside.

I don't know if I don't mind not having a boyfriend or if I don't want one because of my phobias. It's sad that I can't always tell of how I feel.

Sorry for the rambling but thats my reasons.