I would like some advice please

[missjesss]

I've been seeing this guy for a bit and I like him but I have not told him about s.a and I don't want to what should I do??

I feel he sees me as this rlly socially outgoing person who loves to be out which I do but sometimes the s.a stops me im starting to feel like I need run a mile before it turns into something serious I almost feel undeserving and unworthy :-(

 

[kihira]

First of all start using punctuation so that your writing makes sense in one read :b.

Next, tell him. The SA is way bigger in your mind than it will ever be to him. He will think of it no more than 'women's troubles' that come and go but must be tolerated.

 

[missjesss]

phocas

hahaha I am sorry I just blurt out my thoughts without thinking when I type which is more then I can say in actual speaking ;p

I rlly don't think he would understand no one would ever truly understand unless they have it which is why I feel like an outsider most of the time who may aswel not have anyone close to me :-(

 

[missjesss]

phocas

hahaha I am sorry I just blurt out my thoughts without thinking when I type which is more then I can say in actual speaking ;p

I rlly don't think he would understand no one would ever truly understand unless they have it which is why I feel like an outsider most of the time who may aswel not have anyone close to me :-(

 

[kihira]

phocas

hahaha I am sorry I just blurt out my thoughts without thinking when I type which is more then I can say in actual speaking ;p

I rlly don't think he would understand no one would ever truly understand unless they have it which is why I feel like an outsider most of the time who may aswel not have anyone close to me :-(

they dont have to understand they just have to know and accept the same as with someone with epilepsy all you have to say is that sometimes I have this thing and it causes this and its nothing to worry about and they say oh yeah thats cool no problemo and if you arent going to do punctuation for me then I wont for you :b :b :b

 

[sevenroses]

I don't know if it's a good advice but I think you should flat out tell him that you have social anxiety and he needs to accept it so there wouldn't be any surprises. If he really cared he'd accept everything. If he doesn't he's not really worth it. I know easier said than done but ya.

 

[missjesss]

phocas

I like to use slang on the internet ;p at least I can express myself CORRECTLY and fully lol unlike in person sometimes :-(

sevenroses

Well my ex bf knew about it he accepted it but sometimes he didn't fully understand so it was hard sometimes he wouldnt understand when I would just go quiet and rlly upset sometimes but yes he did accept it he was a little bit self centred tho at least this new guy doesnt seem to be hes so caring and funny