Richey
Well-known member
one thing i noticed is unless you have a stand-out personality in some way its a drag on everyone else another thing is everyone there were just fun and could make you laugh effortlessly then i opened my mouth and nobody would give me the time of day everytime i tried, when i tried to make a joke or talk there was little reaction where as everyone else were loud and getting on even the oldies(my delivery, timing and mumbling is probably why, but its not easy for me to just switch on) another thing is the difference in people who spend everyday living a full happy life achieving and how they can bring that to a conversation and someone who spends alot of time hiding from these things, there is nothing stopping them so they have far more to talk about regarding stories etc ...
i'd walk around and talk to people there, which is great but i felt too boring and useless in terms of advice and my own knowledge to those people maybe because we didnt have alot in common but it shouldn't mean that we can't just talk and have fun anyway ..
the girl that i used to hang out with turned up and she was quiet so i walked over and tried to make conversation three times and i just couldn't make much ground in forming a friendship, i really tried
but to no avail, not sure if i was trying too hard or not enough, was i talking lame, its so fucking hard for me and i walk away feeling like i'm unlikeable ..
the people in my family my age(early twenties) all have highly succesful careers and have travelled to europe, most have already even bought houses and land with their boyfriend/girlfriend so because they have that mutual experiance they always get along well, they even go to the same bars/clubs which i'm oblivious to ..
the more i go out the more i realise how useless i am unless its a party for aspergers/autistics, but i know i have to get exposure at least just so i get over the fear of turning up in the first place then i can work on that barrier of forming friendships and trying to be interesting ..
i realise this thread has a fairly unhelpful negative tone going on, but its just me venting my thoughts for tonight, it'll get better one of these days, can anyone relate?
i'd walk around and talk to people there, which is great but i felt too boring and useless in terms of advice and my own knowledge to those people maybe because we didnt have alot in common but it shouldn't mean that we can't just talk and have fun anyway ..
the girl that i used to hang out with turned up and she was quiet so i walked over and tried to make conversation three times and i just couldn't make much ground in forming a friendship, i really tried
but to no avail, not sure if i was trying too hard or not enough, was i talking lame, its so fucking hard for me and i walk away feeling like i'm unlikeable ..
the people in my family my age(early twenties) all have highly succesful careers and have travelled to europe, most have already even bought houses and land with their boyfriend/girlfriend so because they have that mutual experiance they always get along well, they even go to the same bars/clubs which i'm oblivious to ..
the more i go out the more i realise how useless i am unless its a party for aspergers/autistics, but i know i have to get exposure at least just so i get over the fear of turning up in the first place then i can work on that barrier of forming friendships and trying to be interesting ..
i realise this thread has a fairly unhelpful negative tone going on, but its just me venting my thoughts for tonight, it'll get better one of these days, can anyone relate?