I was broken hearted by the one i love

[michaelt1995]

im very new to this web site, n i hope u guys can help me get over this girl who has not responded to my texts since i openly confessed my feelings for. apparently i made a huge mistake of stating that i feel like i could wait forever for her which prolly made her even more uncomfortable. I was close friends with her n yet i screwed it up by confessing... I thought by telling her everything, it would help me vent out my feelings to try to get over her... she kept asking what was bothering me so i felt i was obligated to tell her. I ONLY WANT TO TALK TO HER, not force her to love me back. I want to stay as friends but keeping my true feelings inside was going to drive me insane. call me weak minded, i know, but i did it anyway n i have no regrets. I love her, not for her looks but for her purity, she is not affected by our typical US culture where looks and vanity matter. she would wait for me after 3rd and 4th period evryday until i told her everything. i knew she has a crush on another guy she never talks to but i still confessed. she is not talking to me anymore

 

[Lilly789]

Totally up to you how you chose to handle this, but I think you need to be calm and mature (not saying you haven't been). This is what I would do -

Just send her a text (if you haven't already- if you have, DONT send another one) and say you understand she might feel awkward, that you will leave her alone, but youll always be here if she wants to chat, and you hope she does because you really value her friendship no matter what.

and leave it at that. Don't keep texting her and don't push. Let her come to you (if she chooses to. If she doesn't she's not really emotionally ready for any of this and you need to leave her be).

If you push and keep trying and keep being rejected, youll be in a very bad head space and she will push away even further until she doesn't want to speak to you at all, ever.

EVERYONE has something like this happen to them at least once (or ten times) in their lives. Its a learning process that really sucks, but its a normal part of life. You haven't done anything wrong or weird. Either has she. You just both sound really young

 

[michaelt1995]

Totally up to you how you chose to handle this, but I think you need to be calm and mature (not saying you haven't been). This is what I would do -

Just send her a text (if you haven't already- if you have, DONT send another one) and say you understand she might feel awkward, that you will leave her alone, but youll always be here if she wants to chat, and you hope she does because you really value her friendship no matter what.

and leave it at that. Don't keep texting her and don't push. Let her come to you (if she chooses to. If she doesn't she's not really emotionally ready for any of this and you need to leave her be).

If you push and keep trying and keep being rejected, youll be in a very bad head space and she will push away even further until she doesn't want to speak to you at all, ever.

EVERYONE has something like this happen to them at least once (or ten times) in their lives. Its a learning process that really sucks, but its a normal part of life. You haven't done anything wrong or weird. Either has she. You just both sound really young

THANK YOU SO MUCH, =') and yea im 17 n shes 15 lol so i guess im just naiive. I will follow ur advice to my heart so one day she might forgive me. Thank you =)

 

[Ree]

You sound like a very sweet and mature teen! I know how much it sucks when that happens, my guess is that she's probably shocked about it, and doesn't know how to respond, or maybe she just feels uncomfortable now about it and doesn't want to hurt your feelings... I'm in the same situation as you, but reversed. He still wants to be friends, but won't stop flirting and hinting and getting all mooshy the moment we're alone, which makes me feel even more uncomfortable and insecure around him. It has made it very hard for me to be friends with him now. Haha sorry shouldn't talk about myself! But yeah, whatever you do, give her space and be patient just try your best to act normal around her, and hope that she will come around again and things will be honky dory(lol who says that anymore?!). The thing about hearts, is that they do heal over time, and even fall for others when at the time you think that you could never fall in love again BUT IT SUCKS DURING THE TIME! lol.

 

[PerseverareJasmine]

It can be a difficult time, waiting for someone to respond after pretty much laying your heart on the line. She probably needs some time to process what you told her. I've only confessed my feelings to one guy in my life so far, and I was rejected when I did, but I don't regret anything that I told him, because what I told him was the truth and I told him everything from my heart. It felt good to get it off my chest, even though the rejection did hurt because I really liked him. We are on good terms, and there don't seem to be any hard feelings between us. Whatever the outcome may be, you have to accept her decision, even if her decision may cause you pain. Like you said, you don't regret doing what you did, and it will probably be for the best when both of your feelings out in the open. Good luck.

 

[michaelt1995]

You sound like a very sweet and mature teen! I know how much it sucks when that happens, my guess is that she's probably shocked about it, and doesn't know how to respond, or maybe she just feels uncomfortable now about it and doesn't want to hurt your feelings... I'm in the same situation as you, but reversed. He still wants to be friends, but won't stop flirting and hinting and getting all mooshy the moment we're alone, which makes me feel even more uncomfortable and insecure around him. It has made it very hard for me to be friends with him now. Haha sorry shouldn't talk about myself! But yeah, whatever you do, give her space and be patient just try your best to act normal around her, and hope that she will come around again and things will be honky dory(lol who says that anymore?!). The thing about hearts, is that they do heal over time, and even fall for others when at the time you think that you could never fall in love again BUT IT SUCKS DURING THE TIME! lol.

I have to admit, i do get flirty and touchy sometimes with other girls but it is usually when everybody is at their happiest. This girl is different to me like i mentioned before and everytime i see her smile and do that awkward stare at me up close to my face to see what was wrong with me, i could only love her even more. =) Thank you so muuuuuuuch for ur advice Ree, you have no idea how much you are helping me get over this situation. I will be mature and still be my same goofy and happy self when i get back to school. P.S. i say "honky dory" and "swell" alot lolol im an old soul xD

 

[michaelt1995]

It can be a difficult time, waiting for someone to respond after pretty much laying your heart on the line. She probably needs some time to process what you told her. I've only confessed my feelings to one guy in my life so far, and I was rejected when I did, but I don't regret anything that I told him, because what I told him was the truth and I told him everything from my heart. It felt good to get it off my chest, even though the rejection did hurt because I really liked him. We are on good terms, and there don't seem to be any hard feelings between us. Whatever the outcome may be, you have to accept her decision, even if her decision may cause you pain. Like you said, you don't regret doing what you did, and it will probably be for the best when both of your feelings out in the open. Good luck.

I will accept any of her decisions if it could make her happy again, i even said that i feel like i could wait forever in the rain for her to be happy again. It sounds pretty retarded for me to say cuz it just makes things worse, it was in the moment when i said it. If she doesnt want to see me again then so be it. I atleast want her to say it to me and not just completely ignore me now ='( I would always be there for the ones i love and care for as long they appreciate my existence on this earth, simply smiling at me makes me happy. My family never did that for me. Thank you Jasmine for helping me with my situation =)

 

[fate12321]

Owch! Love can be really complicated trust me. Usually our feelings over power our minds and makes us more vulnerable to negative feelings. Same thing happens to me in high school and if I could go back in time, I'd probably slap myself for doing that. The way things turned out for me was terrible. I knew she liked some other guy, yet I refused to believe it.

Anyways, just because that happened to me doesn't mean that the same will happen to you. My advice is to, we'll accept the fact that you already told her. It will probably take a while for her to realize that you have feelings for her. So yeah try not to, force her to like you. If she doesn't then just accept it, and if she does then consider yourself a lucky man!