So yesterday the girl who I had my first serious relationship with and lost my virginity to broke up with me.
She claims she just had too much on her mind and was losing sleep thinking about us. We did start having some arguements and issues in the past month, and honestly this was building up for about that long too.
But we also had 5 and a half other months of complete happiness, and I know that can't be lost upon her. She said I was the first guy that she ever felt comfortable around, and said I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I also took her virginity and was the first guy she ever did anything sexual with. We used to see each other about 3 or 4 days a week during the school year, and she would often stay at my house overnight when she didn't have classes the next day... but since she came home for summer in early May, it's been more difficult for us to see each other due to work and her having a curfew (I know.. ****ing ridiculous). She goes back to school in mid August.
When she broke up with me yesterday, she was crying on the phone harder than I ever heard her cry. I really don't want this to be over between me and her. She wants to remain friends, but I believe being friends IMMEDIATELY will lessen the chances of us getting back together in the future. She isn't completely ruling out getting back together in the future either, and even brought it up today via a text.
But anyways, all of my friends have been telling me the best way to get someone back after a breakup is to not talk to them for awhile, let them sort things out in their head, and meanwhile, just live your life and try to work on yourself, which is exactly what I'm trying to do. I'm going back to therapy to try and fix some trust issues I had left over from the last couple girls before her (this girl never really wronged me either, which is why I'm really upset about this breakup.)
Just wanted to hear some thoughts and opinions.
She claims she just had too much on her mind and was losing sleep thinking about us. We did start having some arguements and issues in the past month, and honestly this was building up for about that long too.
But we also had 5 and a half other months of complete happiness, and I know that can't be lost upon her. She said I was the first guy that she ever felt comfortable around, and said I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I also took her virginity and was the first guy she ever did anything sexual with. We used to see each other about 3 or 4 days a week during the school year, and she would often stay at my house overnight when she didn't have classes the next day... but since she came home for summer in early May, it's been more difficult for us to see each other due to work and her having a curfew (I know.. ****ing ridiculous). She goes back to school in mid August.
When she broke up with me yesterday, she was crying on the phone harder than I ever heard her cry. I really don't want this to be over between me and her. She wants to remain friends, but I believe being friends IMMEDIATELY will lessen the chances of us getting back together in the future. She isn't completely ruling out getting back together in the future either, and even brought it up today via a text.
But anyways, all of my friends have been telling me the best way to get someone back after a breakup is to not talk to them for awhile, let them sort things out in their head, and meanwhile, just live your life and try to work on yourself, which is exactly what I'm trying to do. I'm going back to therapy to try and fix some trust issues I had left over from the last couple girls before her (this girl never really wronged me either, which is why I'm really upset about this breakup.)
Just wanted to hear some thoughts and opinions.
