I tried to reach out....

[ComplexKid]

I have been alone for a long time now.. Yesterday I was feeling pretty confident so I asked an old friend to hang out..I never really made an effort to try to see people, and now I really know it was for good reason. She made some dumb excuse, and it's obvious that if she really wanted to hang out with me she would have made at least a little effort or at least tell me that we will make plans or something. It just made me feel kinda sad, because I'm always told that things don't get better for me because I don't try.. and then I did try and got rejected.

Do you guys ever try to reach out to people, or are you just afraid all together?

 

[Annerbananer]

ugh I hate when that happens. Last year I asked this guy from a class that I liked if he wanted to hang out sometime. He looked all nervous and said he had plans. We actually became pretty good friends after that but even still I never asked him out again. At least you made an effort, it sucks when you go out of your comfort zone and get shut down for it.

 

[Helyna]

I'd guess that they're wondering why you suddenly want to hang out with them, but that won't make you feel any better. I'm sorry that happened. I hope you can get someone to accept.

 

[A-UK-Lovelly]

if at first u dont succeed..try, try and try again! x

 

[lizzz]

I'm sorry this had to happen to you. I want to say, just put it behind you and keeping trying - you're doing the right things.... but then I know how you must feel and it's hard, isn't it.

 

[Schmoo]

Hey, you are not alone. That happened to me a few weeks ago. My ego did take a hit from it, but I'm trying not to dwell. I didn't really like this person anyway. :wink:

 

[Walk]

Yeah, you have to keep on trying and hopefully not letting those failed attempts stop you. Feel the rejection, cry if you need to --let it out-- but make sure you move on.

Every accomplished athlete/businessperson/actor/etc will tell you that they got to where they are through constant trial and error.

I can remember in high school where I was so awkward and socially anxious that *I* was the one who rejected people asking me to hang out. That's worse.

I've certainly come a LONG way from those days, but the lessons are there: you have to take risks.

I'm not to where I want to be in persistence or confidence, but hey, even an olympian sprinter started to walk with baby steps.

 

[CK23]

I see what you mean... i've tried this on countless occasions myself... i asked them out not once but again and again... i was a complete shut-in during high school but in college i tried reaching out, getting phone numbers trying to make small talk... i obviuosly sucked and whats worse is that even after those bitter lessons and getting better at the art of making conversation i still dont get any positive feedback... i dont know what the fuck is wrong with these deluded people... do you have to give them a treasure trove to earn their friendship... sometimes i feel like i dont want to try anymore and give up... accept the fact that i will never have any friends in my life...

 

[PhantomPod]

That really is so demoralizing when you try to reach out and you get rejected like that. But trying to reach out to people still seems to be the only way. The majority of the time I am too scared to even try and reach out to people to ask if they want to hang out, but there have definitely been plenty of times where I have and I got rejected. Sad.