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i seem to be attached to my BF
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hey hun ((hugz))
Maybe you could go to the party and see if you meet any interesting people there you could maybe be friends with? (Or at least acquaintances first?)
People do need more than just one person to function well, usually... It's odd that 'you don't see each other at all' for 3 to 5 days - or do you mean only in the evening?
Hey, there are some other people from your area on the forums, have you thought about a meet-up maybe? Or checked if there's anyone on Meet-up or so?
As for moving elsewhere - he wants to and you don't. You're gonna have to have a serious discussion. (But not just before/at the party, at a time when you both have time and peace for that... maybe after a good meal or walk or so..)
Do you have a support group or maybe therapist/psychologist or such?
Either you reach an agreement with your bf or decide to split up and you find someone else who doesn't want to move to the place where you don't wanna live. Or find new friends in that (old) place.. (maybe online?) I live in a small town but met some cool people online or via other people I didn't know before at all!! So, there are some options to consider...
You could also agree to stay with other friends or in a motel/hotel/hostel/camp site if you hate being home so much...?? (Are you financially independent or rely on him for income?)
You could also maybe do EFT or TAT on the memories, to try to get rid of them, or reframe old situations/see them differently? Old bfs may actually be daddies with big bellies now, and it may be different?
You could also set rules for visiting... And if you like sollitude, just say so and flaunt it? ('Oh, I like some peace') People need different degrees of company at different times in their lives...
Anyway, hope you manage to work something out!!
Maybe you could go to the party and see if you meet any interesting people there you could maybe be friends with? (Or at least acquaintances first?)
People do need more than just one person to function well, usually... It's odd that 'you don't see each other at all' for 3 to 5 days - or do you mean only in the evening?
Hey, there are some other people from your area on the forums, have you thought about a meet-up maybe? Or checked if there's anyone on Meet-up or so?
As for moving elsewhere - he wants to and you don't. You're gonna have to have a serious discussion. (But not just before/at the party, at a time when you both have time and peace for that... maybe after a good meal or walk or so..)
Do you have a support group or maybe therapist/psychologist or such?
Either you reach an agreement with your bf or decide to split up and you find someone else who doesn't want to move to the place where you don't wanna live. Or find new friends in that (old) place.. (maybe online?) I live in a small town but met some cool people online or via other people I didn't know before at all!! So, there are some options to consider...
You could also agree to stay with other friends or in a motel/hotel/hostel/camp site if you hate being home so much...?? (Are you financially independent or rely on him for income?)
You could also maybe do EFT or TAT on the memories, to try to get rid of them, or reframe old situations/see them differently? Old bfs may actually be daddies with big bellies now, and it may be different?
You could also set rules for visiting... And if you like sollitude, just say so and flaunt it? ('Oh, I like some peace') People need different degrees of company at different times in their lives...
Anyway, hope you manage to work something out!!