I quit my job today

new_mom_09

Member
I feel like such a failure, I let myself and my husband down.
The reason I quit is because I felt so lonely, I couldn't connect with anyone because I "closed up" after I got to know people and eventually stopped talking. I became so depressed that I cried for weeks and tried to hold my emotions in and "grin and bare it".
I'm not sure what my husband's gonna think of me, he doesn't know yet. I feel like giving in was the worst thing to do but I needed to do it for my health.
Therapy doesn't help and I can't take meds because I am pregnant.

Please message me if you quit your job due to SA or are thinking about it (or just comment here).
 

Lexmark

Well-known member
I find its easier just to not start trying anything
Then you dont get that dissapointing feeling
 

GotMeWrong

Member
Well I never quit my job over it, but I did quit doing a particular job at the place I worked at because of it and that was customer service at a store with a PA system and you have to page people and make announcements yadda yadda. Well I hate listening to my voice on a PA and then I get so distracted and am questioning if I sound alright, or freaking out about studdering, messing up, whatever the case may be. I told them I just couldn't do it anymore and I needed a job more physical because I can't stand in one place, which seemed to be fine with them, but still, it sucks because inside I know the real reason why and it makes me feel defeated.

You may want to try homeopathic medicines or cell salts. Those can be taken during pregnancy and are safe to do so. You can find them at health food stores or purchase them online. There are certain remedies and individual cell salts for anxiety, depression, nervousness, etc. I actually just purchased some cell salts this evening and I'm going to be trying them out and see how it goes. I've heard great things about the cell salts in helping people will all sorts of different ailments. I work in a health food store so I hear many testimonials. I figured I would give them a shot since I have tried every other supplement known to man.

Here is an article I found online that can help if you are interested or anyone else for that matter in using homepathics to possibly help in anything that you are experiencing. It's always worth a shot.


"The physical symptoms of panic disorder are caused by an excessive level of adrenaline which prepares the body for the flight and fight reaction. Some of the dreaded symptoms of a panic attack may include a raging heartbeat, difficulty breathing, feeling as though you can’t get enough air, terror that is almost paralysing, heart palpitations, shortness of breath or a smothering sensation, feeling of dread, dizziness, lightheadedness or nausea, trembling, sweating, shaking, choking, chest pains, distress, fear of some impending doom, an overwhelming need to hurry everything and everyone, sudden fright, anxiety, hot flashes or sudden chills, a tingling sensation in the fingers or toes (“pins and needles”), or the fear that you're going to go crazy or are about to die.


Almost anything can trigger this state of extreme anxiety and the person may start to develop all sorts of fears, including a fear of being alone, aeroplanes, driving, escalators, elevators, highways and busy public places such as shopping malls, department stores, restaurants. The sufferer may go to great lengths to avoid these circumstances in everyday life, which can lead to phobias like agoraphobia and social phobia.
There are many homeopathic remedies that will ease the emotional and physical symptoms of panic, gently and without any side effects. Choose the remedy (or remedies) below (in a 200C potency) that best describes your symptoms. You will be amazed how effective these remedies can be!


Aconitum – Your typical ‘panic attack’ remedy and is homeopathy’s “Rescue Remedy”, with the added advantage of helping physical symptoms as well. To be used for a sudden and intense feeling of fright, panic, anxiety, worry and foreboding. Accompanied by oppressed breathing, racing heart, palpitations with stitching pains in the chest, flashes of heat, sweating. Panic tends to be worse at night.

Argentum Nitricum – headless chicken type of behaviour – when you panic or worry about a forthcoming event such as an exam, public appearance, speech, air flight or interview. For a highly emotional state where fears are running high.

Arsenicum Alb – anal type of behaviour – for great fear, anxiety or panic accompanied by restlessness and exhaustion. Disturbed by untidiness, disorder or confusion. Oversensitive to pain, noise and odours.

Gelsemium – ostrich type of behaviour – especially helpful for anticipatory fears and panic before an event or interview. The person feels emotionally and physically numb with fear and can’t get motivated.

Kali Phos – an essential brain, nerve, heart and lung nutrient which improves symptoms of anxiety, panic, hysteria, nervous dread, dizziness, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, nervous tension, night terrors, insomnia, diarrhoea, lethargy, irritability, depression and hyper-sensitivity.

Lycopodium – for lack of self-confidence and courage. Apprehensive about forthcoming events. For a feeling of terror and panic before making a speech or appearing before a large gathering.

Pulsatilla – for fear or anxiety about separation which leads to clinginess, tearfulness and emotional changeability. Fear of a loved one being harmed. A great remedy for emotions of panic which are connected to separation anxiety, including in babies, children and pets. "

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Kamen

Well-known member
I personally wouldn't leave a job for such a reason, it is OK for me. I would leave it if it makes me very anxious and I cannot do it.
At least, you have a husband and a child. Some of us will most likely never have that.
 
new_mom_09 said:
Therapy doesn't help and I can't take meds because I am pregnant.

I've quit at least a dozen jobs due to social anxiety disorder (SAD) and depression. But I haven't given up. I'm currently doing self-help with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and have been able to stay in my current position for 2.5 years.

Nothing is more demoralizing than unemployment, except maybe when you think it's your own fault. But that is the nature of SAD, it makes us think that everything is our fault and we have messed up so bad that our future will be nothing but pain and suffering. In short, SAD bullies the hell out of us till we just can't do anything.

Currently, SAD is telling me that I'm messing up again. And I am. Luckily ACT tells me that everyone messes up, it's human nature. Best to forgive myself for judging myself, and do my best again tomorrow.
 

Rianna

Member
I quit 6 months ago, I'm a mother too.. Maybe, u might be suffering from pre-natal blues. Well, I discussed with my husband before I quit, I have panic disorder and I know how you feel, just not connecting with people at work. I was working in a 9-5 office and I just find time passed so slow. When I have nothing to do, my mind starts to wonder and I get anxiety feelings which I have to go to the toilet all the time to calm down. I just hate it.

After I quit, I stop thinking so much and just go with the flow. It is best that you just stop worrying about what others think and stop hoping so much. Just follow your feelings, talk to your husband and I'm grateful that I have a very understanding and supportive husband. And if the money is short, you can start selling stuff from ebay! Or stop shopping unnecessarily, well I don't think we need that with SA.

You can start diverting your attention from yourself to you kids, just to have something to be occupied.
 

Angel_Of_Death

Well-known member
New_Mom, I honestly feel your pain, and understand what you have been going trough. There are a ton of jobs out there, if you quit this one because you couldn't take it anymore, it's OK. Take the time to work on yourself, get stronger, get better and then get a new job with a new attitude.

Like I said, there are other jobs out there, but there aren't any other husbands or children of yours. Be great full you have them.

I personally have a hard time dealing with work, it's a struggle everytime I'm there. It's the one place where my anxiety is at it's highest. I have thought so many times of quitting, but so far I'm trying to cope...

I've gotten the reputation in the past 4-5 years within my family and friend as someone who cannot hang on to a job for too long. I usually always quit jobs after 3-4 months...I always ended up quitting because of stress, anxiety and depression. The current job I have I've had it for 1 and half year, it's the longest I've held on to a job...but trust me it's not easy. It's daily struggle. I'm vulnerable, and I know I may end up doing just like you and quitting eventually.

I'm not too sure what to say, but what I wanted to tell you is that there are other jobs out there, and you should feel good about having a husband, someone you probably love and loves you...and that's what's the most important.
 

jordo

Well-known member
jobs are over-rated anyway ;). hope you find another job if thats what you want.

blah...i cant work either just for those very reasons. i would dread and think constantly about work while i'm not even at work because i know nobody liked working with me cuz i never talked.
 

BeachGaBulldog

Active member
I quit a job about 10 days ago because of my SA. I had to have something because I need money. It was in a big office with lots of people, exactly the kind of setting I hate, and have never been able to work in.
I already had a bad attitude when I went in. I kept to myself, wouldn't speak to people unless they said "Good Morning", and just didn't care.
I have had too many jobs like this, and I am tired of them. I want something that I can do independently. I have been on meds for a long time, and counseling, but things are always the same. When I get depressed about being in a job that I hate, it affects every other area of my life. I don't care about anything.
I know the job market sucks right now, and quitting a job is not good. I am sick of being around people who can't shut up, talk about others behind their back, and can't handle the fact that a person is quiet. That, and co-workers who try to be bossy. At this last job, I took a guy to task for that.
I don't know what it is, but people always like to "target" the quiet ones. They need to worry about their own *%&!
 
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