I need to talk to her ... Is this a social phobia

[sunvic]

Hello members
I am 19years old and doing engineering (third year). 25 days back I met a girl from the first year during our exams. We had the exam hall in the same floor. So I decided to go and talk to her. I will explain the situation. She was stepping down the stairs. I said " excuse me " she initially moved sidewards thinking I am asking for more space to walk. So I asked her What's your name. which department do you belong, do you stay in the hostel, her school. She answered all these and as we reached the last floor I went to my bus stop and she walked towards her hostel. After this small chat I felt really excited and was thinking about this all day and didn't study well for the next exam. I was thinking what should I talk to her the next time and all other such things .. I was really excited.
Then after this I was looking for her, following her and nothing else. One day
I waited outside her lab for her to get out. As she was going to the hostel, I went behind her and called her by her name, I asked "Do you remember me?" She said "yes, we met in those stairs some days back." I asked her"Did anyone tell you that I had asked you to come to the canteen ?" She said "No!". I said "ok fine, you can go". I was actually thinking about calling her to the canteen but I didn't tell it to her. I missed yet another opportunity.
The anxiety or the mere thought of talking to her made me fail. ?? I had this adrenaline running while talking to her.
after Few days "I saw her in the computer lab. She was coming out of the lab as I entered. Again I didn't make any move. I didn't even look her face to face."
Then yesterday.
Again she had the same lab and I am waiting outside for her to come out. As I see her coming out , I have this adrenaline again coming into action and am not able to do what I had planned to do. Inspite of this I walked towards her but after few meters I stepped away . Now I really need to become her friend and want her to recognize me. I need her to say "hi" or smile at me whenever she see me.! I also have further plans..
hope you understand.

 

[Harold-L]

Uuuh i really doubt that's SP...you just get nervous.
Most people would.
If you had SP you wouldn't have spoken to her in the first place

 

[sunvic]

Uuuh i really doubt that's SP...you just get nervous.
Most people would.
If you had SP you wouldn't have spoken to her in the first place

thanks for the reply.. But I get extremely nervous/ anxious
is there anyway to get out of this a talk to the opposite sex the same way I do with my other friends.
And any help in this case of mine..

 

[recluse]

Uuuh i really doubt that's SP...you just get nervous.
Most people would.
If you had SP you wouldn't have spoken to her in the first place

I can start talking to someone if they are in the same enviroment for example in college doing the same course o'r in the workplace, but then I get so scared I won't know what to say the next time I see them.

 

[terri785]

you sound alot like me ur story made me laugh,wen i like a boy i am fine the first few times i see them or talk to them and then i dont know something hits me like oh my god i fancy him and i cant even look them in the eye and i think about them alot i know for a fact i have social anxiety i find it hard to talk to people all the time but it varies i just wanted to offer you sympathy cum chat to me lol

 

[rado31]

Uuuh i really doubt that's SP...you just get nervous.
Most people would.
If you had SP you wouldn't have spoken to her in the first place

No, it is totaly SP behaviour. When it is too important we act like this. I recognize myself in this silly dialogue they made.

 

[SocialRetahd]

Seems pretty mild SP to me.

SP would be where you would throw up when meeting someone or couldn't even look at them.

Maybe he needs to kick up his stalking a notch?


"I waited for her while she was in the restroom. I sat on that couch they have in there."

 

[sunvic]

Seems pretty mild SP to me.
SP would be where you would throw up when meeting someone or couldn't even look at them.

That's happened to me !.. How do I overcome this a talk to her