Flynt
Active member
Hi all,
New user here, and a little bit nervous about posting. My name is Flynt and I live in Melbourne Australia. I work full time, study via correspondance (because I'm too scared to actually go to a uni) and try to be 'real' in my day to day life. Part of being real is looking for strange and interesting things to do with my spare time. I'm a fire spinner and I have several facial peircings and dreadlocks.
I think perhaps I appreciate minority groups like fire spinners, or 'dread heads' because there are less of them? and they know what its like to be alienated or not accepted. Sometimes I think of my piercings and strange clothes as armour, it makes people approach me less often. Mostly I just try to find people I can relate to one on one because I do much better that way, and I am lucky to have some truly beautiful friends who care about me a lot (fire spinners really are lovely people!) alot of people though, dont believe I have a problem, because I get very scared around people and overcompensate (speak in a high pitched voice, be ridiculous and usually funny, or avoid talking all together) and they think I'm just a bit odd...
Does anyone else find themselves almost alienating themselves as a defensive tactic?? I really avoid going to parties or places where there arent 'safe' people, because in those situations I am practically frozen with fear...
Anyways, if anyone has any tips about dealing with these sort of things, or advice, I would love to hear it.
Yours in healing and hope,
xoxoxo
Flynt
New user here, and a little bit nervous about posting. My name is Flynt and I live in Melbourne Australia. I work full time, study via correspondance (because I'm too scared to actually go to a uni) and try to be 'real' in my day to day life. Part of being real is looking for strange and interesting things to do with my spare time. I'm a fire spinner and I have several facial peircings and dreadlocks.
I think perhaps I appreciate minority groups like fire spinners, or 'dread heads' because there are less of them? and they know what its like to be alienated or not accepted. Sometimes I think of my piercings and strange clothes as armour, it makes people approach me less often. Mostly I just try to find people I can relate to one on one because I do much better that way, and I am lucky to have some truly beautiful friends who care about me a lot (fire spinners really are lovely people!) alot of people though, dont believe I have a problem, because I get very scared around people and overcompensate (speak in a high pitched voice, be ridiculous and usually funny, or avoid talking all together) and they think I'm just a bit odd...
Does anyone else find themselves almost alienating themselves as a defensive tactic?? I really avoid going to parties or places where there arent 'safe' people, because in those situations I am practically frozen with fear...
Anyways, if anyone has any tips about dealing with these sort of things, or advice, I would love to hear it.
Yours in healing and hope,
xoxoxo
Flynt