I couldn't bring myself to say something.

[Lotrsfan]

My sister and her mate go fencing every Thursday, so my sister's friend comes round on Thursdays and then my dad takes them both to the place where they do the fencing at 7:30 in the evening. my dad was sitting in the lounge and my sister and her mate where in the lounge, getting ready and walking up and down and stuff. And my dad said something, and mentioned a man called Geffory...uhm...woops forget the surname, but i found out by looking the name up on google that he's a cricketer...so anyway. And he asked my sister's mate whether she knew who he was, and she said no, and my sister said no, i don't know who he is etc. And i felt stupid coz i was sitting there, doing my cross-stitch. and i didn't speak up and say hey, who's Geffory so and so or something coz my dad didn't ask me. I would've done if my sister's friend wasn't there, but she was so i didn't have the courage to speak or even laugh to just break my silence of just sitting there and anyway, i would've thought coz i was shy, if i said something it would come out wrong, or i wouldn't be able to laugh properly. My sister's mate must've thought i was a mute or something. It was only coz my sister's friend was there. I couldn't bring myself to say anything. I'll be embaressed now, when she comes round. In her mind she'll probably be thinking, gosh, she's soo shy! but then she'd probably thought that every time she comes round, coz i haven't spoken to her or spoken in front of her.

 

[Alexp]

Hi,

You are way too senstive and too hard on yourself. I've done the same thing in the past a million times with similar situations.

You would be surprised though that people really dont think or care the way you think they do. I always thought that such and such person would think I was stupid or shy or weird, yet in reality, they really had more important things to think about.

Try your best to stop beating yourself up, you did nothing wrong. The one thing I've learned is that the more I beat myself up for doing something wrong (even really small) the more I will be shy and the more anxiety I will have for then next social situation. Allow for imperfection and stop caring as much with what people think..and you will see how quickly you can be more confident and more outgoing.

 

[Predacon]

I wouldn't let it get to you to much. I know I do the same thing when I first meet one of my brothers friends. I find it gets easier to talk with them or in front of them once you've met a few times.

 

[logchuck]

Hi guys!

Lol I have done the same thing a million times before too!

Next time you are in that situation, try becoming consciously aware of it and do a conscious decision to say something, that should help you.

 

[Diluted_Acid]

Mate, what you described to us, could seriously be felt by many of us of what could come out of our mouths, but just don't be sooo hard on yourself. I too have a sis, and she always brings all these good lookin girls over, and i've had trouble especially sittin near them at the dinner table, i tend to go red, blush, and nervously giggle alot lol . . . . Pretendin my dad made a joke. Anyways, just don't take this experience too much at heart . . . . haha i got even more of a challenge lol . . . .. my sis bringin her bf over . . . and he's big, and might make me feel intimidated . . . . lol wish me luck guys :wink: . Oh, and all the best next time with your sis friend, sometimes i find it's easy to get use to their friends as you see them more.