I broke up with him and I feel bad:(

[LittleMissScareAll]

I had been dating someone for about a month but he was very jealous, kind of possessive and I think he lied to me...he didnt seem to want me to have any guy friends though he had other female friends... so I broke up with him last night. I just didn't feel the same way about him anymore after all that...do you think I really made a mistake? 8O I dont seem to know what I want anymore...he kept begging me to give him another chance and said he would never do any of it again, but I just dont know...and his mom called awhile ago and said he had been crying alot. And that made me feel worse. So I cried too.
What would you have done in my situation? I don't know if I made the right choice or not, and I feel horrible. But I think I would feel bad either way cause if I went back out with him I would just be doing it BECAUSE I feel bad for him and that would mean things probably wouldn't work and it would just make it that much harder to break up. Life sucks sometimes. I'm so bad at making desicions sometimes.

 

[Thelema]

If he makes you feel good then you should be with him but if he doesn't make you feel good then you shouldn't.

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

thanks for the reply but I can't base my decision on that because sometimes I felt good while I was with him but then others I didn't.

 

[Thelema]

I'm sorry I poke in to your life so much.

If he is willing to try and change the things you don't like then I would try and work it out if the good feelings are good enough.

 

[Sacrament]

Give him a second chance, given the fact that he promised he would stop acting that way. It's not like he cheated on you (at least you don't mention him doing that), so just come forward and tell him what REALLY bothers you about him and that if he wants to stay with you, he has to change and make every effort to deserve being with you.

 

[crazyfairyx]

The question is, do you really want to be with this guy? If the answer is no then why give him a second chance? Why waste both of your time if you know deep down he isn't who you want to be with.

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

Thanks for the replies...I've realized I made the right decision though. If I went back out with him I would only be doing it out of pity, and that's definitely not a good reason to go out with anyone. It may take some time but he'll get over it... I always have when people dumped me. It gets easier after awhile...even though I loved my ex before him, and we were together over 7 months.
And I was telling my mom today that this guy said he loved me the 2nd day he saw me. 8O And I don't see how anyone can fall in love with someone after 2 days. I never said it back of course because that's not how I felt.

 

[crazyfairyx]

I'm glad you've decided hun, I'm sure you'll both find people who are better suited for you

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

Now he keeps telling me he's asking his "friends" to beat him up, and they're doing it.......I wonder if he's been telling me to try to make me feel sorry for him. 8O :?