I barely speak, and I don't want too!
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sweetsour_eisha
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Same here... it's hard to be the quiet one if you're female. People will be like, hey y r u so quiet? u must be shy.. n i'll be like .. yeah ok.. so? u dont hv to say it out loud than!
I guess that's why sometimes i feel that it's better to be a guy n hv sp rather than being a girl, bcoz if a guy was quiet than usually we'll be like, he's juz cool and laid back.. well okay..
I guess that's why sometimes i feel that it's better to be a guy n hv sp rather than being a girl, bcoz if a guy was quiet than usually we'll be like, he's juz cool and laid back.. well okay..
sweetsour_eisha
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cLavain said:
yeah right.. i know..
sorry kinda not in a good mood juz now, i was angry at sth so blaming it all on me being a woman.. lol
reading it back, maybe i was wrong.. :?
Richey
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action speaks louder then words, people can talk utter tripe until they are blue in the face while a shyer person gets on with it and comes up with a cure for cancer or spends that time designing a brilliant piece of art! everyone is able to talk but some people thrive off it because they feel they need approval all the time so they go over the same discussion twice or they just babble on but im not that prejudice when it comes to people so loud and quietier people are what makes the world go round
Jack-B
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All,
The things i have noticed over a period of many years investigating social anxiety/phobia is that most people desire to be heard, listened to, most people desire to speak they feel great need to share their thoughts with the rest of the world, yet they are no happier when their desires are fulfilled. They want more.
They still feel insecure and have the same problems.
We do not have to speak to be happy, after all happiness is what we all seek. Yet our voice can have great meaning and bring happiness to many people if we let it.
So why be so caught up about this? Most of us do get caught up about this, why? We feel we need to speak, the urge to speak, because we feel we should or everyone else has spoken except me inducing that panic.
As was mentioned, most people talk non-sense, with no thought of responsibility or care for others, this creates problems for themselves and others.
I always adopt a simple rule of thumb when talking to others, less is always more.
You can listen to someone babble on for hours spilling out the intestines of their mind not remembering any of it and one person could say one simple thing that changes your life forever.
We all have that ability because we all have a voice, if we use it in a positive way we and others will find great meaning and happiness from saying very little.
Jack
The things i have noticed over a period of many years investigating social anxiety/phobia is that most people desire to be heard, listened to, most people desire to speak they feel great need to share their thoughts with the rest of the world, yet they are no happier when their desires are fulfilled. They want more.
They still feel insecure and have the same problems.
We do not have to speak to be happy, after all happiness is what we all seek. Yet our voice can have great meaning and bring happiness to many people if we let it.
So why be so caught up about this? Most of us do get caught up about this, why? We feel we need to speak, the urge to speak, because we feel we should or everyone else has spoken except me inducing that panic.
As was mentioned, most people talk non-sense, with no thought of responsibility or care for others, this creates problems for themselves and others.
I always adopt a simple rule of thumb when talking to others, less is always more.
You can listen to someone babble on for hours spilling out the intestines of their mind not remembering any of it and one person could say one simple thing that changes your life forever.
We all have that ability because we all have a voice, if we use it in a positive way we and others will find great meaning and happiness from saying very little.
Jack
iamantisocial
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I barely speak... cuz I dunno how to socialize properly and when I do, I just normally get ignored and it really gets embarrassing.
2QuietForThem
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CaptainQuirk said:
Exactly! I just finished taking a college course and barely said a word the whole time. All around me, people made friends and the room became pretty rowdy by the 3rd class. I just sat there with my mouth shut, listening to nonsense all around me. I didn't feel the need to speak because I'm not into silly talk with people I barely know. I kind of like being different. I think it shows strength to not fall in with the people who talk junk all the time.
loneEAGLE
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very true,i noticed many people will act like a babbling assholes just to say something and get attiention from people,in this social shithole of a world we live in where actors,performers and athleates are the stars while people looking for a cure for aids cancer etc go unnoticed and name less,being that brainless "babbling asshole" seems to work.yes it show a lot of strength to be happy and content with who you are,i see many people here with sa have a very "i suck","life sucks" attitude2QuietForThem said:
sweetsour_eisha
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when my life comes to an end..
and my time on earth has passed..
let them bury me upside down...
so the world can kiss my ass !!!lol !
I like your signature..
jayfan
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those people searching for the cure for cancer dont have sa. they live pretty normal lives (sorta ) and make big bucks. it doesnt show alot of strenght to act like your happy if your truly not and most people with sa are truly not happy so why lie to yourself. im not going to point out the obvious but most peoples lives here truly do suck *im no exception. however we are all obviously trying to get better. being a babbling idiot seems to work out better than being a herb with sa.loneEAGLE said:
Moonie
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Females are known for being chatterboxes, and I think that can make some quiet women feel uncomfortable. There are times when don't care that I am so quiet, but other times, it bothers me a bunch. I guess it bothers me that people make a deal about it or whatever. It bothers others more than it does me.