how to stop comparing

[rado31]

I find comparing as another useless aspect of my twisted behaviour.

Usually people by wathing news think or feel better because they were not victims of some accidents or so. For me others misery really dont contribute the way of how i feel, except that i maybe feel worse when i m already down.

But, if i compare to some1 that has some obvious better situation i tend to feel worse. Also i tend to discredit myself a lot.

We live in a competitve world and everybody is comparing , i want to stop it becuse it wasnt a part of my initial features, i m infected by wathing other people. Maybe to involve some meditative thinking?
I want to mind my own business, no matter how far i m settled on miserability scale.

 

[maggie]

I find comparing as another useless aspect of my twisted behaviour.

Usually people by wathing news think or feel better because they were not victims of some accidents or so. For me others misery really dont contribute the way of how i feel, except that i maybe feel worse when i m already down.

But, if i compare to some1 that has some obvious better situation i tend to feel worse. Also i tend to discredit myself a lot.

We live in a competitve world and everybody is comparing , i want to stop it becuse it wasnt a part of my initial features, i m infected by wathing other people. Maybe to involve some meditative thinking?
I want to mind my own business, no matter how far i m settled on miserability scale.

i do that too..specially with people around my age who are successful and accomplishing stuff i wish i was..makes me feel shitty :evil:

 

[coriander1992]

I'm constantly comparing myself to other people, mostly with how well I do in school.
I'm so used to being the best in my class, that if I don't always get a good grade i'll beat myself up about it.

I could be so much happier if i didn't focus so much on how i'm doing compared to everybody else, and just focused on how i'm doing for myself.

 

[Vancouver]

I find comparing as another useless aspect of my twisted behaviour.

Usually people by wathing news think or feel better because they were not victims of some accidents or so. For me others misery really dont contribute the way of how i feel, except that i maybe feel worse when i m already down.

But, if i compare to some1 that has some obvious better situation i tend to feel worse. Also i tend to discredit myself a lot.

We live in a competitve world and everybody is comparing , i want to stop it becuse it wasnt a part of my initial features, i m infected by wathing other people. Maybe to involve some meditative thinking?
I want to mind my own business, no matter how far i m settled on miserability scale.

I got the cure! I was thinking about this the other day - so I started realizing how grateful I really should be. There's starving people in Africa, people in Iraq who are in critical condition, cancer patients, people being kept alive by machines... the list goes on. I'm just happy to have a breath in my body, when I think about some of those people. You just need to compare yourself to the right people (not in an egotistical way at all though, obviously) and just see how much possibility exists in your own life. Some people can't even walk - how do you think they feel wandering around in our society? Probably a lot worse than you!

 

[okkamsrazor]

I stopped comparing my self to others a long time back by accepting the fact that I have absolutely nothing in common with them. Drop your expectations Rado m8, maybe you'll live a little free'er in the long run.

 

[recluse]

I often feel inferior to other people. For example if someone appears to be popular and has a lot of friends i feel extremely downhearted. The worst thing for me is seeing guys who don't have a problem talking to girls, and have no trouble finding girlfriends.

 

[flake__]

I used to do this all the time, everyone i ever met. I am very good at analysing people so it's kinda fun to see things from their point of view and see their world. But then inevitably i would feel downhearted like you say recluse. In their world making friends is so easy, life is so great! And they're so funny, easy to talk to. I was like, why can't i make my world like that?

But i don't really do that anymore. Just got to the point where i realised it's so unhealthy. Why put yourself through the mental pain? Sure you're social phobic, you don't have to make your day any worse by making yourself feel even more inferior. My day is less mentally tiring since i stopped.