How to get un-irritated?

[SilentAndShy]

For ages now, I've always found myself get irritated at the slightest thing, whether it be my nieces/nephews (one of my nephews' voice grates on me) crying or making a racket or just someone's voice making a comment that makes me want to scream!

This means I either won't be that keen on having children of my own as I seem short-tempered when it comes to them possibly. Not keen on having kids anyway but this doesn't help.

Anyone got advice on dealing with situations when you are extremely irritable?

 

[mikebird]

You make sense.

I never thought of this. I think I never listened to my elders

Brothers' wives looked down on me with frowns. I was keep away from nieces all my life, and I settled with that. Now it comes back at me.

I had wreaking tantrums at my parents, and still do with my Dad when we meet. I wanted to say that my parents never touched or kissed, as I saw in all normal life, and TV & movies

I want to consider every person as individual. I want to find any stranger beyond the norm and turn that relationship into something important.

Surely anyone has a chance to express themselves to their parents and anyone else

The forever ringing bell is Dad's: 'Ken is strange. I was harsh to him.' Ken is the best of three brothers, with grandchildren, two married daughters, although on one of many marriages, and is frightful to me; I guess he thinks of me as his loser son

My employers seem to have tantrums at me

I only let mine burst out at interview once, so far.