How to deal with people who constantly stare at you.

[Samantha08]

I always get stared by mainly Pakistani men. Those stares are so revolting that it sickens me. I really don't consider myself that good-looking and I always dress decent when I'm out. There were several times I got followed by them. Once, when I was 16, one was constantly staring at me in the library and I got so intimidated that I had to leave. Then he followed me until my house so I was so scared I had to text my dad to come to the front door. A similar scenario happened last week when I went for grocery shopping. Nowadays, I don't want to go out as I don't want to come across those people. Last sunday, I was waiting to cross the road and a group of Pakistani men were waiting to cross as well. They keep muttering at each other and smirking at me in a perverted way at the same time. It really got my nerves and I felt so disgusted. I'm not being racist or anything but men from other background are more respectful.

 

[mikebird]

People in their big groups
bullies
spending all realtime staring and all giggling together
like a flock of hens or bees, flies, ants

I fancy some physical violence to generate some entertainment and applause
crushing the hordes of vermin... cockroaches...

By default I divert my attention and walk away, feeling a bit superior

 

[doctor_who]

I've noticed this too, definitely with the Pakistani guys...i'm really chubby and they tend to look at me and stare at me and I feel really self conscious, nobody else pays attention to me and it freaks me out. I don't know how to deal with it either, I usually am walking with my partner so I just grabbed his hand tightly but by myself I don't know how i'd cope. It happens with black guys too, but I think they see fat girls as more attractive or easy or something. I am not being racist but it makes me feel uncomfortable too, its not a hey you look hot today look either, its more a creepy look with a creepy smile. I once had a black guy ask me my name and I told him and he said I looked like his beautiful friend and followed me and started saying why don't you come to mine? i'm having a party and he followed me until I started to run and kept my head down and he shouted at me, don't know what he said then he stopped following me.

I carry a personal alarm on me, it makes me feel safer if I am walking by myself, maybe you should get one of them, they are quite cheap and they make a hell of a noise, what I do as well is I get my phone out if I feel uncomfortable about someone walking behind me and I phone someone and just chat away. Maybe you should phone your parents if you ever feel uncomfortable, I know this is extreme but I sometimes if I feel so uneasy (at night time and I live in a city) and someone is walking behind me or someone is making me feel uncomfortable I go into a shop until they pass or just stop until they pass.

I don't know what else to say but make sure you are safe and that someone knows where you are at all times.