How do you handle criticism?

[LonelyLeaf]

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[Andrew]

Have you seen the movie "Falling down"?

 

[JonnyD]

*BOOM*

Have you seen the movie "Falling down"?

plot:An unemployed defense worker frustrated with the various flaws he sees in society, begins to psychotically and violently lash out against them.

LOL!

 

[bitingthepea]

not that good
well if someone critisies me ill keep quiet look happy but inside my blood is probably boiling!

 

[JonnyD]

generally i try to make the best of it,

but most of the time, anything can hurtme, the slightest movement of eye!

 

[marciaX3]

i don't take it well at all. depending on who it is, i'll get really defensive and point out their flaws! or, i'll just retreat inside myself and shut down around them from that point on. if i can, i'll go to another area to be alone and start crying, screaming, hurting myself.

i'm also someone that critiques myself to the umpteenth power and so i already know all my flaws and crush myself over them. so i really don't need help in this dept.

 

[weak]

Depends on what context its in. I don't mind constructive criticism much but if someones just lookin to rag on me then it usually leads to a war of words.

Have you seen the movie "Falling down"?

LMAO!

 

[LonelyLeaf]

Have you seen the movie "Falling down"?

Some of it, yeah, but what's that got to do with criticism of getting criticized?

 

[Fairylicious]

I don't handle criticism very well at all. I think mainly because I'm already very self critical, I'm always the first one to point out a flaw, and bash myself over it. Additional criticism, from someone else, just really hurts.

I do the exact same thing. i'm soooo hard on myself. Not only am i afraid of not being good enough for everyone else, i spend most of the day not being good enough for myself (which is probably why i'm convinced that i'm not good enough for anyone else)

Back in my functional days, i would pretend to take criticism very well (they like that in the work place), but inside i'd be tearing myself up over it... I take it too personally, or feel as though i have failed. I have to be perfect to other people or something close to it.

These days, i don't intereact with enough people to really be criticized... meaning the people i subject myself to generally are rather supportive. With the exception of one...

I accept this criticism from Coulsin/Peeca because i have been able to trust that no matter what she says to me, she isnt going to stop loving me, and she says it out of love to better myself. All the same, she has the ability of saying things that make me feel lower than low. So i go through all the same emotions as before, but at the end of it, i'm not worried about losing her... it's kinda theraputic in a way as i have a shitload of abandonment and object constency issues.

 

[LonelyLeaf]

I don't handle criticism very well at all. I think mainly because I'm already very self critical, I'm always the first one to point out a flaw, and bash myself over it. Additional criticism, from someone else, just really hurts.

I do the exact same thing. i'm soooo hard on myself. Not only am i afraid of not being good enough for everyone else, i spend most of the day not being good enough for myself (which is probably why i'm convinced that i'm not good enough for anyone else)

Back in my functional days, i would pretend to take criticism very well (they like that in the work place), but inside i'd be tearing myself up over it... I take it too personally, or feel as though i have failed. I have to be perfect to other people or something close to it.

These days, i don't intereact with enough people to really be criticized... meaning the people i subject myself to generally are rather supportive. With the exception of one...

I accept this criticism from Coulsin/Peeca because i have been able to trust that no matter what she says to me, she isnt going to stop loving me, and she says it out of love to better myself. All the same, she has the ability of saying things that make me feel lower than low. So i go through all the same emotions as before, but at the end of it, i'm not worried about losing her... it's kinda theraputic in a way as i have a shitload of abandonment and object constency issues.

I think you should always start by loving yourself..nothing in this world can be done if we don't unconditionally love and accept ourselves first...two other things..don't try to be perfect or think that there exists some correct way of acting socially..this is common to SA people, they think that there is a certain correct way of acting socially and everything else is wrong, which is not true...third, criticism is tough but I think necessary..avoiding being criticized only makes things worse in the long run..criticism should be spoken back to and not shied away from. Anyway, just my thoughts, hope you have a good weekend

 

[Sad-Kitten]

I think that's true, you really got to be comfortable with your self first. Other wise how can you be comfortable with other people.