Russellashley
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Hi,
I really need some advice. Im feeling completely lost with my partners anxiety problems. I understand the condition (as much as a non-sufferer can) but i am at a loss of how to support her when it really hits her.
Circumstances are not great for her at the moment. We have a baby daughter, Freya and i am the sole earner, mainly due to the fact that kalinda (my partner) is unable to work due to her situation. i am forced to go to work to support us all, but this leaves Kalinda at home all day by herself looking after baby. She uprooted away from family so we could be together and is now living in a small town where she doesnt really know anyone and with her condition, is unable to get out and make contacts.
She basically has what i would think is generalised anxiety, but with a strong hint of social phobia and agrophobia. She cant leave the house much and the thought of goung to the local shop is too much for her. She will sit with her thoughts all day, rapped in the usual vicious circle that sufferers get stuck in. She is tired all the time and is starting to think of herself as a bad mother (i think due to the anxiety and self esteem issues- she is a brilliant mum and really natural at it) because she hasnt the energy. She feels cut off from the world and sometimes even reality and she even told me that she has doesnt know who she is, as anxiety has ruled her life from the age of 17 to now, her formatitive years.
I struggle when i get home as i am tired myself and then i will come home to a really unhappy atmosphere and usually bear the brunt of the days frustrations in way of arguments and accusations. A good example is when i was late because of traffic due to an accident. i thought a phone call would be good idea so she wasnt worried i had been in a crash (another common anxiety). When i called she immediately started to interogate me on wether i was lying (i even had to go to the length of taking a photo of the POLICE ACCIDENT sign to prove myself...) and then i was blamed for the problem personally. This sort of thing is common and i find it such a struggle to remember that it is just her anxiety talking.
Anyway, this is about Kalinda, not me. What advice can you give me to help and encourage her to get through this? I understand that it is mainly up to her to recover, and thankfully she is really wanting to have a normal life and the will to beat this. but i know that i can be a huge help. I really want to be there for her, i love her so much and i want a long and happy life with her and our family. What practical advice canyou give me?
I really need some advice. Im feeling completely lost with my partners anxiety problems. I understand the condition (as much as a non-sufferer can) but i am at a loss of how to support her when it really hits her.
Circumstances are not great for her at the moment. We have a baby daughter, Freya and i am the sole earner, mainly due to the fact that kalinda (my partner) is unable to work due to her situation. i am forced to go to work to support us all, but this leaves Kalinda at home all day by herself looking after baby. She uprooted away from family so we could be together and is now living in a small town where she doesnt really know anyone and with her condition, is unable to get out and make contacts.
She basically has what i would think is generalised anxiety, but with a strong hint of social phobia and agrophobia. She cant leave the house much and the thought of goung to the local shop is too much for her. She will sit with her thoughts all day, rapped in the usual vicious circle that sufferers get stuck in. She is tired all the time and is starting to think of herself as a bad mother (i think due to the anxiety and self esteem issues- she is a brilliant mum and really natural at it) because she hasnt the energy. She feels cut off from the world and sometimes even reality and she even told me that she has doesnt know who she is, as anxiety has ruled her life from the age of 17 to now, her formatitive years.
I struggle when i get home as i am tired myself and then i will come home to a really unhappy atmosphere and usually bear the brunt of the days frustrations in way of arguments and accusations. A good example is when i was late because of traffic due to an accident. i thought a phone call would be good idea so she wasnt worried i had been in a crash (another common anxiety). When i called she immediately started to interogate me on wether i was lying (i even had to go to the length of taking a photo of the POLICE ACCIDENT sign to prove myself...) and then i was blamed for the problem personally. This sort of thing is common and i find it such a struggle to remember that it is just her anxiety talking.
Anyway, this is about Kalinda, not me. What advice can you give me to help and encourage her to get through this? I understand that it is mainly up to her to recover, and thankfully she is really wanting to have a normal life and the will to beat this. but i know that i can be a huge help. I really want to be there for her, i love her so much and i want a long and happy life with her and our family. What practical advice canyou give me?
