How can I beat lifelong unpopularity and loneliness?

[Toomuchfear]

What do I hate more than anything? Being alone

I really, really want to have friends. I never had any growing up when I was very shy, isolated and silent. I successfully came out of my shell and learnt to speak confidently, I thought friends would come naturally.
In my 20s, I am friend-less. I smile, I take an interest in people, I try to make conversations with people at every opportunity. I may have SA, but even when I'm comfortable I still find it really hard to make happy conversation that people want to listen to.

Sometimes I want to scream out of loneliness! I can't understand why people don't want to my around me! And yes I do wash!

 

[deleted user 1]

Find the right kind of people. Not everyone is compatible. Fnd your niche, that group of people that you will actually have a connection with. Other then that, you are doing exactly what you should! Keep it up

Just a quick aside, List your interests, your characteristics, try think of places where those kinds of people will go. You'll be surprised how fruitful this approach can be. Best of luck TMF.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Ask someone to hangout with you like go golfing or something

 

[Bustn Justin]

Find others with simillar interests. Start by liking things or youtube vids on your FB account. After I did that, people who I wouldn't normally talk to hit me up and started haging out. As well you can always check out events that interest you in your local area. Since I am into techno music, I go to a club where local DJs do thier set. After a few times that I went, it has been easier to have a conversation wiht others who are into the music.

 

[Death Rider]

One thing I've noticed is that we, SADers, don't fit in to other groups of people. We're outcasts. So one choice is to be lonely and alone and another is to form your own group, which is stressful, so we avoid even the idea.
Here's your answer. You must form a group around you; you will not be able to join one.

 

[deleted user 1]

I disagree with this, we are an inhibited group of people, thus we are not able to be who we truly are. Nobody is that discociated from society, furthermore, upon close inspection most outcasts are thus because of their own volition, even us! I stand by my first post.

 

[bigcat1967]

What's your interest? Whatever that is - then hang out w/ ppl that have the same interest. You'll find someone there...

 

[vancouver24]

hey, i totally understand what you mean ! :: it makes me mad..it makes me angry...yesterday was my worst day.. i thought about ending it all...i just dont want to live alone anymore.... sorry im suppost to be making you feel better... but i feel like cr@p myself... hey add me ..also, do you go on MSN much?