Hi!

[Pinciotti]

I've had SA for as long as I can remember, however I've only admitted this to myself recently. Just writing this here makes me feel nervous and sweaty and like I'm about to cry.
I've been in a relationship with my first love for almost 12 years and he still does not know the depth of my problems, because I don't even trust myself enough to admit certain things. I think I would have had it easier if my parents hadn't taught me that no matter what you never discuss your problems with anyone. They used to beat each other up when I was a kid (never me or my sisters though) and then in the morning everyone had to sit down for breakfast and act like dad hadn't choked mom at night.
Wow. I've never written any of this down. Not even in my diary.
I'm so thankful I found this forum and feel so much better to know that I'm not the only one struggling. Maybe there is a way to cope with myself after all.

Oh, and I'm from Scandinavia so pardon me if there are some mistakes in my english. ::

 

[friendchen]

HI

Do you have problems with your boyfriend because of SA??? If you have, I think you should tell him..If not..I think you can wait till you feel relaxed..

And I think you should forget never discuss your problems thing..If you don't discuss, you'll never get the answer..you'll just stuck up..

Discussing is not a weakness that reveals your weak point..Its taking a step forward to the solution..

GOOD LUCK

 

[chained]

welcome to spw, your English is great..
and with certain ppl u shouldnt talk about ur problems, but ppl u can trust and therapists yes

 

[Lionheart]

welcome to spw, your English is great..
and with certain ppl u shouldnt talk about ur problems, but ppl u can trust and therapists yes

maybe...but you dont need a therapist if you have familiy and friends that help you and understand you..but the sad think is we dont help each others with our problems.

 

[BlackPuma]

Don't cry, Pinciotti! You're amongst good people here. ;3

I'm very sorry to hear about your parents, that must have been really traumatizing for you. :c But you're here now, that's a very good start. :3

Welcome to the forums! :33

 

[Ignace]

Hi Pinciotti, welcome to SPW.

 

[AimeeSP]

Hi sweetie welcome to SPW! I'm so sorry about what you've been through, i can relate. I hope you find SPW usefull and your english is very good!

 

[EscapeArtist]

Hi, and welcome. It sounds like you've had a tough life, i'm really glad you feel comfortable enough to release this information to us. Banning speech of physical or emotional problems can have enormous impact on a person, i'm so sorry you were put through that. And don't worry, your English is flawless.