Hi

[foxytrot]

Just became a memeber and wanted to say hi. Im 30 (prob one the oldest ones here lol) and have had SA for as long as i can remember and i often wander if i will ever be rid of this SA and be happy! although i dont think my SA is severe as some peoples here i it does effect my life eveyday and has stopped me from doing things i want to do. i am so fed up of it, i want to get better or do you think im too old now to change?

 

[foxytrot]

I find it difficult making friends and interacting on a 1-1 basis with people especially with outgoing and confident people. I haven’t been in a long term relationship since I was 25 and the only time I feel able to go on a date with a man is when I have had a few drinks before hand. Which is hopeless and obviously, the relationship does not last very long lol the thought of being alone for the rest of my life really gets me down!

NIce to meet you too and thanks for replying

 

[va_boy]

I'm really getting fed up with mine, and I have been doing a lot more stuff w/ people lately instead of worrying how I might embarass myself all the time.

 

[foxytrot]

Thanks zeroday for your advice it helps a lot and it’s nice to know there are people out there who understand.

I work for an agency sometimes and im at uni fulltime but unfortunately the profession I have chosen involves a lot of interaction with people so am starting to wander if I have made the right choice. Anyway, im in my last year so will just have to do my best to get through it - you never know I may even be better by the time I finish

Va_boy - I think when you don’t worry so much about what other people think of you it is easier to get out there and socialise.

 

[secret_dream]

Hi foxytrot just want to say hi and to reassure you that there are other older members here( iam 34).Reading your post also made me relate with my situation as i also study at the uni f/t and in my final year.Since 25 my anxiety has become worse and worse and it does restrict me from many things that id like to do.

i still have friends and till recently i was in along term realtionship with a guy that we are still very close. But dealing with my SA makes sometimes difficult to be even with the people im close with.Anyway, just wanted to let you know that i understand how you feel and the important thing is that you dont give up in life (if you had you wouldnt study).Tk care