Atlantis
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There was a girl I was trying to talk to. She works on a self-service type restaurant I usually go with my family sometimes.
In the beginning, I wasn't lets say... extremely anxious. I was still a bit but I think it was okay. Actually, I did not plan anything. I was not thinking about talking to her or doing anything. I just considered the possibility. I think thats why I wasn't so anxious.
I exchanged some looks with her, and she noticed that I was interested. I was not so anxious, so I decided to try going talk with her about anything. I didn't even planned to talk much, but when I came to her... nothing came off. I didn't think it was awkward, but I saw she was expecting that I would start a conversation. Maybe it was good in someway since normally I wouldn't even try.
When I returned there I wasn't planning to do anything, so I will let that time pass. I was planning to try again in the second time I returned, but I didn't force myself to do it. I expected that probably I wouldn't do anything. Next time I returned I was a lot more anxious than the first time, perhaps because I didn't said anything in the first time I tried to talk to her. So maybe she was already wondering why I didn't talk to her at that time. So I didn't have the courage, again. I just greeted her, with a bit of force since I was very anxious, and thats all. I saw she talking with one of the waiters, and he said something like "He is just nervous".
I didn't get angry or more anxious because of that, actually I started to find my situation a little funny. But that also didn't make me relax. Well, I do not think anything weird happened. Thats not something that happen only to people who has SA, I think. Anyway, when she firstly noticed I was interested in her, she was more receptive... like more sympathetic you could see that by her expression. The last time she wasn't like that, but I think it was because I was too anxious. You know... sometimes we get anxious when other people are anxious.
I would like any commentaries, advices, anything. What should I do ? Why do you think she wasn't so receptive in the second time ? Was I weird ? Should I forget this ?
Next time, I was thinking in not expect anything like if I just wanted to talk and even if I talk it could be so short as it needs to be, and if nothing happens... its okay too. What you think ?
The text is kinda large... I hope someone reads it.
In the beginning, I wasn't lets say... extremely anxious. I was still a bit but I think it was okay. Actually, I did not plan anything. I was not thinking about talking to her or doing anything. I just considered the possibility. I think thats why I wasn't so anxious.
I exchanged some looks with her, and she noticed that I was interested. I was not so anxious, so I decided to try going talk with her about anything. I didn't even planned to talk much, but when I came to her... nothing came off. I didn't think it was awkward, but I saw she was expecting that I would start a conversation. Maybe it was good in someway since normally I wouldn't even try.
When I returned there I wasn't planning to do anything, so I will let that time pass. I was planning to try again in the second time I returned, but I didn't force myself to do it. I expected that probably I wouldn't do anything. Next time I returned I was a lot more anxious than the first time, perhaps because I didn't said anything in the first time I tried to talk to her. So maybe she was already wondering why I didn't talk to her at that time. So I didn't have the courage, again. I just greeted her, with a bit of force since I was very anxious, and thats all. I saw she talking with one of the waiters, and he said something like "He is just nervous".
I didn't get angry or more anxious because of that, actually I started to find my situation a little funny. But that also didn't make me relax. Well, I do not think anything weird happened. Thats not something that happen only to people who has SA, I think. Anyway, when she firstly noticed I was interested in her, she was more receptive... like more sympathetic you could see that by her expression. The last time she wasn't like that, but I think it was because I was too anxious. You know... sometimes we get anxious when other people are anxious.
I would like any commentaries, advices, anything. What should I do ? Why do you think she wasn't so receptive in the second time ? Was I weird ? Should I forget this ?
Next time, I was thinking in not expect anything like if I just wanted to talk and even if I talk it could be so short as it needs to be, and if nothing happens... its okay too. What you think ?
The text is kinda large... I hope someone reads it.