black_mamba
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This is something that happened to me a few weeks ago, I am very embarrassed about it and ashamed of myself but I figured that if I want to improve my confidence I should try dealing with it:
So black mamba is sitting in a quiet secluded church garden in the middle of town, minding her own business, playing with her new sketch book and admiring the cool birdies that had congregated to eat people's leftover sandwiches.
A scruffy looking gentleman was sitting on another bench a few metres away from me and I wondered whether he was homeless...then another guy approaches him and puts him into a headlock. The first guy is now saying 'I don't have your money, go away, leave me alone' and the second guy starts biting him on the nose! At this point he is shouting for help and I can't quite figure out if they are friends joking about because it seemed so surreal. Looking around, there was a group of young men/teenagers and a mother and child, and me, and I couldn't believe the group of men didn't help. I completely shat myself 8O I couldn't do anything, I was struck down by fear and froze. I did nothing but whince and look away in disgust.
Eventually the asshole walked away and gave me the dirtiest look he could muster up. The guy who was attacked then got up walked away too. He was actually bleeding quite badly and I felt like shit for having not done anything. A few minutes passed and I went to look for him, I headed towards the police station but again, struck down my anxiety I turned back.
So thats it; too scared to help someone in danger. I realise I couldn't have been of much help, its not like I'm gonna take him down and slap him about (although I would've loved to) but I could've at least shouted for more help or something...argh!
>>Although this thread was a semi-rant, I'd be interested in any advice regarding how to deal with a similar situation if it ever arises again or if any of you have been in similar situations?
I am also even more angry at myself because I have been in a similar situation and yep, no one helped. I've been harrassed/spat on by a gang of teenage girls and was desperate for help, and I'd also been knocked down by a car whilst on my motorbike and no one helped!
Argh great I'm a hypcrite now too. I just can't believe I let my anxiety get in the way of helping someone.
So black mamba is sitting in a quiet secluded church garden in the middle of town, minding her own business, playing with her new sketch book and admiring the cool birdies that had congregated to eat people's leftover sandwiches.
A scruffy looking gentleman was sitting on another bench a few metres away from me and I wondered whether he was homeless...then another guy approaches him and puts him into a headlock. The first guy is now saying 'I don't have your money, go away, leave me alone' and the second guy starts biting him on the nose! At this point he is shouting for help and I can't quite figure out if they are friends joking about because it seemed so surreal. Looking around, there was a group of young men/teenagers and a mother and child, and me, and I couldn't believe the group of men didn't help. I completely shat myself 8O I couldn't do anything, I was struck down by fear and froze. I did nothing but whince and look away in disgust.
Eventually the asshole walked away and gave me the dirtiest look he could muster up. The guy who was attacked then got up walked away too. He was actually bleeding quite badly and I felt like shit for having not done anything. A few minutes passed and I went to look for him, I headed towards the police station but again, struck down my anxiety I turned back.
So thats it; too scared to help someone in danger. I realise I couldn't have been of much help, its not like I'm gonna take him down and slap him about (although I would've loved to) but I could've at least shouted for more help or something...argh!
>>Although this thread was a semi-rant, I'd be interested in any advice regarding how to deal with a similar situation if it ever arises again or if any of you have been in similar situations?
I am also even more angry at myself because I have been in a similar situation and yep, no one helped. I've been harrassed/spat on by a gang of teenage girls and was desperate for help, and I'd also been knocked down by a car whilst on my motorbike and no one helped!
Argh great I'm a hypcrite now too. I just can't believe I let my anxiety get in the way of helping someone.