ChristopherK
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I think that I am "love-shy" and I am in love with someone who is also very shy. Is it possible for this to work out?
My story is long so I will break it into a couple of posts.
I am a middle aged man who has only had one real girlfriend in my life--that was about 12 years ago. That only lasted a couple of months and was an unhappy experience. I was thrilled to have a GF--but she didn't care about me and didn't treat me very nice. Her biological clock was running out--she wanted someone with a decent job to marry her and have children with her--and support them for the rest of their lives. She was at a point where she was "willing to settle" for me--she made that clear and it turned me off. She treated me badly and pressured me for marriage constantly--and even though I had wanted a GF so badly for all my life, I couldn't take it for long.
Fast forward to two years ago--a sweet girl who seems to really like me confided to a friend that she thought I was cute!!! I know her through a club dedicated to an activity I enjoy (sailing). We have a common interest, and some common friends--but as a 50 year old, practically virgin, I am terrified of her. When she comes near--I literally shake with fear--but I think of her constantly. It has been over two years, and I haven't pursued this--has she given up on me? Is it too late to try?
My story is long so I will break it into a couple of posts.
I am a middle aged man who has only had one real girlfriend in my life--that was about 12 years ago. That only lasted a couple of months and was an unhappy experience. I was thrilled to have a GF--but she didn't care about me and didn't treat me very nice. Her biological clock was running out--she wanted someone with a decent job to marry her and have children with her--and support them for the rest of their lives. She was at a point where she was "willing to settle" for me--she made that clear and it turned me off. She treated me badly and pressured me for marriage constantly--and even though I had wanted a GF so badly for all my life, I couldn't take it for long.
Fast forward to two years ago--a sweet girl who seems to really like me confided to a friend that she thought I was cute!!! I know her through a club dedicated to an activity I enjoy (sailing). We have a common interest, and some common friends--but as a 50 year old, practically virgin, I am terrified of her. When she comes near--I literally shake with fear--but I think of her constantly. It has been over two years, and I haven't pursued this--has she given up on me? Is it too late to try?
