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death_86

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hello how is everyone doing today ?I had a few questions on my particular case if anyone would care to help i would greatly apperciate it.Thanks and sorry if the details are boring.

Let me start by stating my case.I am 19 years old and 4 years back i developed this kind of behaviour.First of all i started as never going out and just staying home and wouldnt even go to family gatherings,dinners or parties or anything to do with being socially around people.i always gave excuses to people that iam eitheir sick or in no mood to go out.i didnt think of it at the begining as something but gradually things are getting worse i guess.i had to leave my country at 19 to go to a university but its getting worst and worst here.I would always stay home and basically skip 80% of my classes and particulary go out with a trustworthy friend that i feel very safe with.I hate being in places with crowded people i dont know if its a state of fear but iam sure i fear nothing which most of the times iam eitheir shy or nervous.Sleepless nights occur alot to me which forces me to stay two days with no sleep.I skipped several classes because i get nervous when i observe large numbers of students inside that class.To make this story shorter i feel that iam stuck home because i classify it as my safezone and not easily be social around people at all. I Would be thankful so much if i can get advices about if i should see a physciatrist which at the same time makes me always reject the idea to see one.Thanks !!!
 

Waybuloo

Well-known member
death_86 said:
hello how is everyone doing today ?I had a few questions on my particular case if anyone would care to help i would greatly apperciate it.Thanks and sorry if the details are boring.

Let me start by stating my case.I am 19 years old and 4 years back i developed this kind of behaviour.First of all i started as never going out and just staying home and wouldnt even go to family gatherings,dinners or parties or anything to do with being socially around people.i always gave excuses to people that iam eitheir sick or in no mood to go out.i didnt think of it at the begining as something but gradually things are getting worse i guess.i had to leave my country at 19 to go to a university but its getting worst and worst here.I would always stay home and basically skip 80% of my classes and particulary go out with a trustworthy friend that i feel very safe with.I hate being in places with crowded people i dont know if its a state of fear but iam sure i fear nothing which most of the times iam eitheir shy or nervous.Sleepless nights occur alot to me which forces me to stay two days with no sleep.I skipped several classes because i get nervous when i observe large numbers of students inside that class.To make this story shorter i feel that iam stuck home because i classify it as my safezone and not easily be social around people at all. I Would be thankful so much if i can get advices about if i should see a physciatrist which at the same time makes me always reject the idea to see one.Thanks !!!

Hello D_86
It's painful i know but i really suggest you see a psych even a counsellor as it can make you feel better once you get it off your chest to a person who can understand it and who's better equipped to aid you in your suffering. What is stopping you from seeing him/her? is it because of the embarassment of telling that to a stranger? in that case they have seen it all and would not be shocked at all to this. My counsellor told me people come to her all the time about shyness/lack of friends/anxiety etc.

As sad as it sounds u cannot stay in your safety foreever, or it would be more and more harder to assimilate back into the real world. What should you do? well a counsellor can tell you that. :)
 

death_86

Member
:(

Thanks littlematchgirl,worrydoll and chihiro but like u said iam not shy but rather feared to say all whats locked up inside of me.How did you overcome your fears and easily speak to a physc iam so nervous to say certain things i have never told anyone about since i had a very bad childhood from my parents :(
 

sutiono

Active member
If you have a problem with talking about it, how about wirting it? I found it easier and helpful and I am keeping a journal daily.
 
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