I've been in a relationship for almost 4 months now, and I feel my SP is starting to come between us. He is understandind, and never thinks twice about what I have. He's social, and loves to go out, but gives up a lot of that when he's with me. It is a long distance relationship (a very long distance one) we live 1200 miles apart, talk every night on the phone, and pretty much act as if there is no distance between us. It hurts sometimes that hes far, but I am thankful for it, it helps me get over the "speed bumps" of having SP and trying to funtion in a normal relationship. I know I have found a real "keeper". He has done so much for me. I have come off so much medication and done things I never thought possible. I'm always laughing and smiling and feel so....HAPPY, its wonderful, I never thought I could feel this way again. So you ask..."what the he** is the problem!". ME! I'm paranoid, and untrusting. He's never done anything to make me feel otherwise, I just find it hard. For example, he began talking about a girl, and immediatly I think he's cheating. So I talk honestly with him, and he understands. I don't want to hurt him, but I can't help the way I feel. It drives me crazy that I don't know what hes thinking. I feel mean sometimes, then sulk for days, and I'm afraid he may thinks its him. There are so many insane thoughts, and I can't keep them in line. I need someone with experiance in this type of thing, I want this to work and am willing to try anything.
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Chilling__Echo
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oh CFK you're so right.
i'm the same way with everything. i'm very irrational, my moods can go ALL over the place, and it's a mix between my meds and my anxiety. i dated a guy for three years and he didnt' understand completely but he was right by my side the whole time.
you just have to be up front with people and let them know that 'hey, this is me' - it comes with the package! and everyone has good and bad things in their package. i'm sure he has something you have to pay mind to. don't think it's just you.
and again, he sees something already in YOU! enjoy yourself! have fun, and stop worrying
just make sure you let him know you appreciate his patience, not everyone has ittake care 8)
HAHA :lol: Yes yes very true. I'm glad I can explain how I feel now, and know its not ALL me. I'm glad other people feel this way too. I try to be as honest as possible, but some things are a little too...."close" for my taste, at least not yet. Someday I feel I could share absolutly anything. Thanks for the advice! 8)
Raining
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Why do you bother coming to this site Mr? what do you do apart from piss others off? your just begging to be banned again (perm this time thank god)
Tell me do you hate your self? so much you feel the need to try upset others to make your self feel a little better? if you want to keep your account try keeping your comments to your self.
Tell me do you hate your self? so much you feel the need to try upset others to make your self feel a little better? if you want to keep your account try keeping your comments to your self.
jayfan
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it doesnt sound like hes out of line but then again im not a mod here and ive only seen a handful of his post . look at his picture(if thats him) , he looks very bitter(i can relate ) . does everything have to be so nice? how hard is it to ignore?either way.Raining said:
99.9% of the time long distant relationships dont work. find someone closer to you , yeah i know i make it sound easy. besides that , im quite sure most people here would feel the same way . most of us here are insecure and unsure of ourselves. theres really nothing you can do , unless you can change the way you think(not likely) .
Chilling__Echo
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there's your answer
I thankfully did not read what he wrote, and I thank you for your advice Jayfan. I am aware that most long distance relationships do not work, and its very odd, but being far away is not what I have a problem with. We see eachother every couple of months, and like i said talk everynight on the phone. Believe me, if I thought that was what is getting in the way, I would end it. But again, thank you very much for your advice, any and all is welcome.
Chilling_echo, thank you VERY much for intervening, I am in no mood to hear negativity, and I think it's safe to say no one is. I realize a lot of people on this site are bitter or less then happy. But isn't this supposed to be a place to feel safe and open? Don't we feel judged enough in our everday lives, why should we have that here? Call me cliche, but "if you have nothing good to say, don't say anything at all" is a saying I live by. Whatever has you bitter, I hope it gets better. Thanks again all!
-Jessie
Chilling_echo, thank you VERY much for intervening, I am in no mood to hear negativity, and I think it's safe to say no one is. I realize a lot of people on this site are bitter or less then happy. But isn't this supposed to be a place to feel safe and open? Don't we feel judged enough in our everday lives, why should we have that here? Call me cliche, but "if you have nothing good to say, don't say anything at all" is a saying I live by. Whatever has you bitter, I hope it gets better. Thanks again all!
-Jessie