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ok - so my boyfriend keeps telling me he's shy. and i see it. and i just don't know how to deal with him. i've known him for about 15 years but we've only been dating for about 7 months.
here's the thing....he seems really into me (i.e. putting photos of us in a frame in his bedroom) but then he can be so standoffish. we have a long distance relationship and we only see each other when i drive to see him. he has never come to see me where i live.....but he keeps telling me that once he does something the first time, he's ok with it and more comfortable with it. he seems flustered by the thought of driving to visit me. i can see it. he's anxious about it. he seems afraid to go outside his comfort zone.
but i can't bear the weight of the relationship. what can i do to ease some of the fear and burden he's carrying.
here's the thing....he seems really into me (i.e. putting photos of us in a frame in his bedroom) but then he can be so standoffish. we have a long distance relationship and we only see each other when i drive to see him. he has never come to see me where i live.....but he keeps telling me that once he does something the first time, he's ok with it and more comfortable with it. he seems flustered by the thought of driving to visit me. i can see it. he's anxious about it. he seems afraid to go outside his comfort zone.
but i can't bear the weight of the relationship. what can i do to ease some of the fear and burden he's carrying.