Help me!!

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Burntfaceman

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ok so theres a girl i REALLY like and im pretty sure she likes me,
we hang out lots and we send each other pics and she always says 'miss you'
we also hold hands when we are alone.

But
she only just broke up with her ex a while ago. it ended badly and she was really hurt.
She sez she kinda wants another relationship but really does not want to get hurt again???

Please help!!
i dont know what to do

Should i chase after her???
Or just be friends??
Or just leave her alone?
:(
 
Looking_in105

Looking_in105

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i think that you should take it slowy ie. stay friends for now, then see what happens. if she broke up with her bf recently she maybe just missing companionship/feeling of being in a relationship. give it a few weeks I think...
 
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Burntfaceman

Active member
hey man thanks a lot thats probly a good idea

another thing is .... she cuts herself because of it. is there any way to help her stop? O:
 
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mmmm

Well-known member
Don't just leave her alone. you like being with her, she likes being with you, so why spoil a good thing? I gather that she likes you "that way" but I would tread very carefully before exposing my feelings. Maybe one day hen you guys are holding hands you could pull away ever so slightly and say something trite but effective like "I love being close to you but the friendship line is starting to blur for me and I don't want to make your life any more complicated while you're hurting." See how she reacts to something cheesy and wishy washy like that and go from there.
 
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mmmm

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Oh, didn't see that part about her cutting herself. The only way to stop someone from cutting herself is to make her feel good. You must have seen the same scenario play out when people have drinking problems. Their life will seem wonderful to an observer and they'll be sober for months and then one little real or imaginary thing will set them off on a binge. Then when they start feeling okay about life again they will sober up.

Same thing with your girl. People who are in a good place in life will not cut themselves. It is not your responsibility to stop her but you CAN be one more thing for her to feel positive about. And you can gently remind her (but not in an obvious way pleeeeeez) what is good about herself and her life.

I realise I am over simplifying but I have suffered from the whole cutting thing and I know what I appreciated from my support system when I was in "that place."
 
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