Hello!

[Shopaholicmama]

Hey everyone! I'm new to the site and hoping to get to know others. I currently have zero friends in real life (besides family). My anxiety seems to be manageable at times, but it gets out of control at other times. I've learned that breathing through a tough situation helps me the best, but I also realize that I constantly have to force myself into social situations or I lose progress.

I think my parents raised me in an environment that encouraged me to let my social anxiety take control of my life. One thing I worry about is passing this on to my children. My goal is to get "better" for my children. I want them to grow up with a normal social life, and not be ignored by the people that are supposed to raise them (like I was).

 

[TreeBones]

I think the fact you're trying to better yourself for your kids is really cool
Welcome to the forum

 

[Sea Bass]

Welcome to socialphobiaworld Shopaholicmama!

I have read your first post on this thread and the only thing that comes to mind is perhaps finding a good therapist that you can talk to about these issues. Like have the therapist work on your issues and then ask him/her what you can do so it doesn't "spread" over to your children.

I'll give you somewhere to start.. I've read somewhere that socialphobic parents are somewhat detached and distant from their children. Does it sound like you?

 

[Shopaholicmama]

I think I'm detached in some ways but not always. I honestly hate playing with toys and games because my children make up a million rules and are bossy lol. However, I make sure I take them to different events (carnivals, parks, holiday events, etc). Something I'm worried about is the fact that they don't get much socialization time with other kids, so my next goal is to make friends with children.