Has anyone overcome shyness yet?

[kindashyguy]

Hey has anyone on this message board yet overcome being shy yet.

And how have you overcome being shy. that's kind of my goal that I don't know how to try to a accomplish, I just feel like I am stuck being not that social around people that I don't know or have a crush on, I can be sort of outgoing around my friends, but people are more outgoing then I am.

Any advice plz.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Where to begin a lol to say. I'm sure many will post everyone here is friendly and helpful. Not everyones solved their issues many can share experiences.

I suggest checking stickies of these forums in SA section and others... you may be more than just Shy and have SA. I thought I was just shy/etc. I could have written your exact post right now... then really read up on SA and these forums helped back then and realized I did have SA. Far deeper than just shyness. Obviously you'll know the extent of your shyness and anxiety.

And there are many posts with experiences and advice out there. (like CBT, exposure based therapy, etc.) Trust me I can relate big time with ya mate you aren't alone. Whether that makes you feel better or not I don't know lol =)

Not exactly what you're looking for I haven't overcome my shyness/SA.

 

[kindashyguy]

I don't have full shyness because I also have friends too, but I am not social as my friends are that's the thing, how do I get help about this being more social, overcome being shy to meet more people/gain more friends, the thing is I am busy with 2 jobs also.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

not having friends does not mean you have Social Anxiety Disorder. Many ppl with SA have friends... but experience what you do. Ergo like I. I was not as social as my friends. I did go out. Hard make new ones. I could make them esp via school/classes but never kept up with them do to SA and never felt as comfortable.

Everyone has different levels, too. Some ppl with SA or Shyness have a good number of "friends", very few friends or none, yeah. It's hard sometimes to discern Shyness and SA.

Do you socialize at your jobs or time/allowed to do that?

Here's a great video on SA and Shyness. It's long... but worth it. You may learn a lot about both things, and some help options and yourself. Obviously, watch at your own convenience and discretion I highly suggest it though as a good fundamental resource and clear talk about all this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tru...http://i.ytimg.com/vi/4truuD_xMP0/default.jpg