Has ANYONE been through this? Is it depression, laziness, or what?

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rsting89

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Not sure where to ask I need help...I don't know if this depression, low-esteem, social anxiety, all of the above, none of the above...I just dont know

First of all I'm 21yo guy and almost always have zero energy and always feel down, unhappy, lonely, just like some huge loser at times and don't feel like doing anything. I don't know if it's because I'm extremely self-conscious or what but I hate going out or doing anything with friends.

What I don't get is I don't think it's social anxiety because I have no problem interacting with people, or if I'm making a speech or whatever BUT if I were to go into a bar alone or some public event alone the anxiety increases immensely and I think it's because of my low self-esteem

Another that that is really really really bothering my is I am always imaging myself in the future, always saying "when I get to this point in life I will be doing this and that" but I'm so lazy, so unmotivated, so uninterested.

I mean, why do I just not feel like doing anything? I KNOW I want to but why am I so unmotivated????
 
Pacific_Loner

Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
I am probably repeating myself, but you sound like someone who should check your alimentation and way of life. You could lack some vitamins. If you have a lack of iron, you might have anemy, which would totally explain your lack of energy. Anemy could also be caused by other things: if you are gluten intolerant, your body cannot absord vitamins and nutriments properly so you are always in a state of malnutrition. So maybe you should get tested for gluten intolerance. And dairy product intolerance. It worked for me. Also helps a lot: Get up early enough to get enough sunlight, and get into some sport. Basically that's it. For self esteem, I can't help, I have none :p
 
BlackPuma

BlackPuma

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It sounds like you do have social phobia/anxiety to some extent. I too am far more confident when I'm with someone. Public spaces like streets and such aren't a huge problem even when I'm alone. But places where I have to remain seated/still for extended period of times (meaning longer then two minutes) I do get very anxious and nervous.

Social phobia/anxiety needn't be extreme in all social situations. It are certain circumstances inside those social situations that cause the anxiety. Depression also causes a lot of the symptoms you described; Lack of motivation, lonely, unhappy and even lack of energy (in my personal case).

I'd say follow Pacific_Loner's advice first and see what happens. You'll see that when you take good care of your body you'll be better equipped to deal with (potential) mental difficulties.

Good luck. :3
 
Bustn Justin

Bustn Justin

Well-known member
Sounds like you are depressed and have SA.

I sound like you and I are alike. I feel tired all the time and don't do anything. After awhile I got depresssed and feel like I am in a deep hole where I can't get out of.

At least you are reaching out and looking for help. After reaching out myself I don't feel alone and starting to feel more confortable with myself.

If you wanna talk hit me up.
 
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