LittleMissMuffet
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...well, relatively speaking, by which I mean speaking as one whose has fairly strong anxiety in the past, it was a great day.
I still experienced nervous tension and apprehension in people situations, but this was less often and the rest of the time it was less intense.
The stand-out thing that I notice to be different is that even despite such "failures" in interacting with others -I don't seem to be phased anywhere as much. Like I was able to drop the past -what just happened (like: "Ohh, that guy looked at me funny. I must be looking anxious") and I wasn't as worried walking into some situation as I can be.
Somehow, I am able to put such awkward interactions with others into a perspective in which they have less significance to me. I still overeacted (every so often, maybe even a bit by some standards) but it's not a big deal. And this non-judgemental thought is a feeling that I somehow felt today.
So, when people say that it is judgements about reactions (ieur thoughts or our feelings) that is KEY to getting better, I can experience how this is true. And it really does make sense given that my self-conciousness and sensitivity started this whole thing, and I guess it is where this whole thing will end, too.
I've written a list of possible reasons for my great day. Why I can feel this new perception as opposed to simply thinking it and wishing that I could believe it. (I mean, that I've always known what I fear is irrational and yet I've struggled believing that it is irrational)
Here are some possible reasons...
1. i had a self-esteem boost yesterday because my mother discovered that I do have interests -namely some interest in psychology and in meditation
2. I've been practising Meditation for a few months now ...and many people notice that difficulties in their life gradually diminish after regular time spent practising meditation
3. Along with practising meditation, I've been reading about it and the whole frame of mind to take into Meditation is in a sense a meditation it self. By which I mean that the best attitude to take is one in which you can accept who you are just as you are right now. There is no struggle, no striving, no need for results, and no need to get away from your current experience. -And this at once both the best attitude to take into meditation as well as what meditation is designed to help people 'get to'. (notice that I put those last two words in inverted commas!)
One last thing to say, being in this moment NOW is what Mindfulness is all about. Well, 'Mindfulness' is both the aim of meditation as well as a specific meditation technique (just so there is no confusion ...there are so many variations on what meditation is...)
Well, I was thinking that my anxiety is all about my trying to avoid and control my strong sensitivity to what is going on around me. I know this because when I was a small child I was hypersensitive (I'd hate anyone just touching me because it was "too much"). And I also have this compulsion to order and to analyse -just incase you hadn't noticed!
And this is simply how I try to numb my self to the world and it's bombardment of my senses.
And yet, this analysing and need to order/to know, is what I really think has gotten me into an anxiety problem.
Then we have meditation and specifically Mindfulness meditation. And it is as far removed from analysing or controlling or ordering as it gets. In it, a person trains themselves to let sensations, thoughts and feelings come and go and settle -and there is no resistance towards anything.
so you could say that Anxiety is my compulsion to order things which is a reaction to my high sensitivity.
and Mindfulness solves this chaos of fast and overwhelming thoughts and feelings by allowing me to develop a patience and tolerance -an "emotional stamina". Instead of fighting my strong feelings and reactions, I learn how to live with them. and there is no longer a conflict.
I'm really quite happy and relieved.
...am I gonna care what happens tomorrow?! -Hell, no. Not any more!
and I'm so glad to have Mindfulness to help me.
I still experienced nervous tension and apprehension in people situations, but this was less often and the rest of the time it was less intense.
The stand-out thing that I notice to be different is that even despite such "failures" in interacting with others -I don't seem to be phased anywhere as much. Like I was able to drop the past -what just happened (like: "Ohh, that guy looked at me funny. I must be looking anxious") and I wasn't as worried walking into some situation as I can be.
Somehow, I am able to put such awkward interactions with others into a perspective in which they have less significance to me. I still overeacted (every so often, maybe even a bit by some standards) but it's not a big deal. And this non-judgemental thought is a feeling that I somehow felt today.
So, when people say that it is judgements about reactions (ieur thoughts or our feelings) that is KEY to getting better, I can experience how this is true. And it really does make sense given that my self-conciousness and sensitivity started this whole thing, and I guess it is where this whole thing will end, too.
I've written a list of possible reasons for my great day. Why I can feel this new perception as opposed to simply thinking it and wishing that I could believe it. (I mean, that I've always known what I fear is irrational and yet I've struggled believing that it is irrational)
Here are some possible reasons...
1. i had a self-esteem boost yesterday because my mother discovered that I do have interests -namely some interest in psychology and in meditation
2. I've been practising Meditation for a few months now ...and many people notice that difficulties in their life gradually diminish after regular time spent practising meditation
3. Along with practising meditation, I've been reading about it and the whole frame of mind to take into Meditation is in a sense a meditation it self. By which I mean that the best attitude to take is one in which you can accept who you are just as you are right now. There is no struggle, no striving, no need for results, and no need to get away from your current experience. -And this at once both the best attitude to take into meditation as well as what meditation is designed to help people 'get to'. (notice that I put those last two words in inverted commas!)
One last thing to say, being in this moment NOW is what Mindfulness is all about. Well, 'Mindfulness' is both the aim of meditation as well as a specific meditation technique (just so there is no confusion ...there are so many variations on what meditation is...)
Well, I was thinking that my anxiety is all about my trying to avoid and control my strong sensitivity to what is going on around me. I know this because when I was a small child I was hypersensitive (I'd hate anyone just touching me because it was "too much"). And I also have this compulsion to order and to analyse -just incase you hadn't noticed!
And this is simply how I try to numb my self to the world and it's bombardment of my senses.
And yet, this analysing and need to order/to know, is what I really think has gotten me into an anxiety problem.
Then we have meditation and specifically Mindfulness meditation. And it is as far removed from analysing or controlling or ordering as it gets. In it, a person trains themselves to let sensations, thoughts and feelings come and go and settle -and there is no resistance towards anything.
so you could say that Anxiety is my compulsion to order things which is a reaction to my high sensitivity.
and Mindfulness solves this chaos of fast and overwhelming thoughts and feelings by allowing me to develop a patience and tolerance -an "emotional stamina". Instead of fighting my strong feelings and reactions, I learn how to live with them. and there is no longer a conflict.
I'm really quite happy and relieved.
...am I gonna care what happens tomorrow?! -Hell, no. Not any more!
and I'm so glad to have Mindfulness to help me.