Hello all. This is my first thread here. Its mostly just venting so you may just want to skip it. I hope that writing all this down will help me somewhat.
I don't know if I have social phobia or any personality disorders for that matter (I've never been officially diagnosed), but I'm certain that there is something wrong with me. Despite the fact that I have several good friends, I still don't feel like I'm connecting to people. I feel anxious around people (although Its gotten significantly better since when I was younger). I have a group of friends and I'm actually quite comfortable with them when we're all in a group, but then when I'm faced with a one-one situation I get very uncomfortable. I can't seem to carry on a conversation either. The interesting thing is, I think I know exactly what the problem is. I'm a terrible person. I'm self-centered, apathetic, boring, and manipulative. You can even see it in this post. I'm whining about myself, and I'm using manipulative phrases like I always do. Wondering what manipulative phrases I'm using? Well first of all the third sentence of this post. I realized recently that I use phrases like that unconsciously, not to warn people about what's coming up, but rather wanting to draw them into it (In this particular case, I don't know if I'm using it manipulatively or to genuinely warn people. Perhaps its both?). Then I go and belittle myself to get people to feel sorry for me and talk me up. I never realized it but, this is what I've been doing. I've been trying to correct this habit, but I found that it is harder than I thought it would be. I'm not sure if I can even do it all by myself. I don't want to be a terrible person, but I feel like I'm stuck here. I have absolutely NO REASON to be depressed (my life is fine) and yet I am. Anyway, now that I've realized this I find myself always questioning my own motives. I feel like I'm going crazy. Particularly in the area of love. I won't even get into that. All I can say is that my emotional thoughts are getting dangerous. I'm angry at women for rejecting me. I know how immature that is, but I can't stop myself from feeling angry, I can barely quell it at all. I also know that they reject me because I'm a terrible person. It's my fault, not theirs, and yet, even realizing this, I'm still angry. I feel like there's another person inside of me, that I'm fighting with for control over my mind. What frightens me the most isn't even the suicidal thoughts anymore, its that I've had fantasies of pulling a Columbine/Virginia Tech and that I've found comfort and pleasure in these fantasies. I realize how bad that is, and I dislike that I find comfort in such fantasies. I miss the fantasies I used have, of sci-fi worlds and ****. I miss being able to wonder and think about interesting things, rather than constantly dwelling on negative thoughts. I try not to dwell on negative things either. I've tried meditation, I've tried distracting myself, but they won't desist. The only thing that seems to work is being with people, but I can't always be with people (I don't want to become dependent and clingy), and of course being with people makes me feel anxious. Anyway, I'm sure you can clearly see all of the illogical, hypocritical, and inconsistent thoughts. I can see them too, but I can't seem to change them.
Thank you for listening.
To conclude this post, I guess I'd like to ask if anyone else feels like they're going crazy. How do you handle it, if the answer to the previous question is yes?
I don't know if I have social phobia or any personality disorders for that matter (I've never been officially diagnosed), but I'm certain that there is something wrong with me. Despite the fact that I have several good friends, I still don't feel like I'm connecting to people. I feel anxious around people (although Its gotten significantly better since when I was younger). I have a group of friends and I'm actually quite comfortable with them when we're all in a group, but then when I'm faced with a one-one situation I get very uncomfortable. I can't seem to carry on a conversation either. The interesting thing is, I think I know exactly what the problem is. I'm a terrible person. I'm self-centered, apathetic, boring, and manipulative. You can even see it in this post. I'm whining about myself, and I'm using manipulative phrases like I always do. Wondering what manipulative phrases I'm using? Well first of all the third sentence of this post. I realized recently that I use phrases like that unconsciously, not to warn people about what's coming up, but rather wanting to draw them into it (In this particular case, I don't know if I'm using it manipulatively or to genuinely warn people. Perhaps its both?). Then I go and belittle myself to get people to feel sorry for me and talk me up. I never realized it but, this is what I've been doing. I've been trying to correct this habit, but I found that it is harder than I thought it would be. I'm not sure if I can even do it all by myself. I don't want to be a terrible person, but I feel like I'm stuck here. I have absolutely NO REASON to be depressed (my life is fine) and yet I am. Anyway, now that I've realized this I find myself always questioning my own motives. I feel like I'm going crazy. Particularly in the area of love. I won't even get into that. All I can say is that my emotional thoughts are getting dangerous. I'm angry at women for rejecting me. I know how immature that is, but I can't stop myself from feeling angry, I can barely quell it at all. I also know that they reject me because I'm a terrible person. It's my fault, not theirs, and yet, even realizing this, I'm still angry. I feel like there's another person inside of me, that I'm fighting with for control over my mind. What frightens me the most isn't even the suicidal thoughts anymore, its that I've had fantasies of pulling a Columbine/Virginia Tech and that I've found comfort and pleasure in these fantasies. I realize how bad that is, and I dislike that I find comfort in such fantasies. I miss the fantasies I used have, of sci-fi worlds and ****. I miss being able to wonder and think about interesting things, rather than constantly dwelling on negative thoughts. I try not to dwell on negative things either. I've tried meditation, I've tried distracting myself, but they won't desist. The only thing that seems to work is being with people, but I can't always be with people (I don't want to become dependent and clingy), and of course being with people makes me feel anxious. Anyway, I'm sure you can clearly see all of the illogical, hypocritical, and inconsistent thoughts. I can see them too, but I can't seem to change them.
Thank you for listening.
To conclude this post, I guess I'd like to ask if anyone else feels like they're going crazy. How do you handle it, if the answer to the previous question is yes?