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When I look back, there's been so many opportunities for me to go out with a girl. The only problem is I wouldn't get close to them. They weren't the best looking girls, but weren't the worst either. One of my problems is my standards are so high. I can't change that. I also feel that if I don't go out with the hottest girl I'll get made fun of.

The perfect girl for me is Elisha Cuthbert. I know I'll never find a girl as good looking as she is but thats what I really want. I can't change my standards no matter what. I know theres girls with good personalities and all that, but I'm really big on looks. My ideal girl is one of those ditsy blonds, you know the ones who don't know anything. I don't want to go out with a retard but I want a girl the total opposite of me. I don't want a shy and introverted girl friend. I know I'm completely out of their league but its what I want. They seem happy all the time and are easily satisfied and don't ever get mad. This girl came into my work the other day with her boy friend and she was perfect. A little older but other than that perfect.

I realize these types of girls would get annoying after a while but I can't stop thinking of what it would be like to go out with them. What about other guys? what kind of girls do you like?

 

[TAMPA-BAY]

ditzsy girl

Be careful what you wish for. You should watch that old aerosmith video. Its about a nerd who builds a dumb blond to date. She did what ever she was told. Unfortunately she also did what ever other guys told her too.

Honestly have you seen the girls on this site. Shyness doesnt discriminate as to who its going to affect. There are plenty of shy attractive girls.

Also you are in those girls league. You just havent found the right few yet.

If you dont want a shy girl why not beat this anxiety and become an extrovert out going type? If you like those types of girls maby you should put your self in the environment that those types are most likely to be.

Personaly I like the type of girls you find on this site. Unfortunately its a catch 22 trying to meet them.

 

[ripewithdecay]

Elisha Cuthbert is banging Dion Phaneuf atm, hah.

Well, I think the ideal girl is just someone who is herself - whether ditsy and up in the clouds or reserved and quiet. I could click with either, but the only girls i've ever dated are the extroverted type. I think just being able to laugh with and have a good time with a girl is important. She can be as quiet and shy with everyone else or as outgoing with others as she wants as long as her and I are able to kind of go off into our own world together and be stupid. It's all the same to me.

My standards are pretty high too :X I think it's a curse more than anything. It's a little selfish, but i think anyone who has high standards just has to accept that he's going to have to work harder/be more patient.

 

[Ken]

When I look back, there's been so many opportunities for me to go out with a girl. The only problem is I wouldn't get close to them.

I've also had many opportunities, if i would have only tried to get close to them. My standerds as far as looks goes are pretty high. However, I would never date someone who i didn't have chemistry with no matter how good looking they are. As far as I'm concerned the most important thing is whether or not the two of you have a similar sense of humor.

 

[SocialButterSlip]

I really like geeky girls who have a really unique personality, sometimes extroverted sometimes not. The girl has to make me go wow she got substance. I can't stand girls who are dumb or pretend to be dumb it just irritates me.

 

[dpr]

i hate dumb girls and "material girls" with a passion

 

[tpdarlo]

Remember, the prettiest girls have the best diseases.

Obviously when you don't know a person, on face value your standards are high (as there is no other form of attraction at a distance other than the physical). When you get to know somebody your standards are gradually eroded by your interest in the person's personality or the bond that inevitably develops. What I'm getting at is you may only want a beautiful girl because you have never experienced the attraction of a good personality, due to your anxiety inhibiting the development of a normal relationship.

 

[ghost_train]

I can totally relate. Physical attraction is very important- and should be. People have occasionally tried to make me feel shallow about regarding it as a high priority in a prospective partner, but that is of course ridiculous. There are plent of girls with whom I get on with, and whose personality I really click with. I call these girls 'friends' not 'girlfriends'.

I somewhat stuck in a rut, as, though I don't think many girls are categorically 'out of my league', the ones that I am attracted to are not ones that need to bother approaching guys- they'll have at least 5 persuing them at any given time. Therefore, until I can shed some of my ego and in turn overcome my crippling anxiety about making the first move, I'll be alone. This I can say with assurance, as I would rather live and die alone than just settle for what's handed to me on a plate.

 

[celestialrecluse]

Remember, the prettiest girls have the best diseases.

that made me lol!

i agree one hundred percent with what tpdarlo says.

i myself would love a guy who looks just like adam brody, and who had the perfect personality, but i know thats phsyically impossible, my now ex bf was soo not what i usually went for, but as i got to know him as a friend i started to find him more and more handsome, you'll soon realise that thats more than likely how it works, and to me that is the best way, to find someone mentally and emotionally attractive before finding them physically attractive. that made sense in my head, but it's my mind so others might not find this so coherent.lols!

 

[bretters]

I think my depression/ S/A really makes me see the important things to look for in relationships, without it i might of been as vain as anything.

My standards are to high also - with personally though. i like my worldly smart people! Looks are pretty important, but as long as i want to do the dirty and just think "wow im lucky" i tend to ignore anyone elses opinion.

Ive had an arm candy before but my god they got so boring so quickly! Tastes change....think u may just need one of those arm-candys for about a week to do it.

 

[Moonie]

I worry about people that are too picky or only set them self up for liking one type of person. I have known people like that and it really limits their opportunities of who they can date. I am not saying that you should date just any ol person, but perhaps you should change your standards just a tad.

Now on the other extreme, I really don't have a certain type (and maybe I should be a little more picky) as I have met some idiots, lol. I guess I am too open-minded sometimes about who to date. I don't have a certain look (and that's a good thing, IMO) because it has allowed me to meet all sorts of peole. And it allows me to look at the person- not their shell.

I really don't understand how someone can weigh so heavily on appearance. You could have been in a great relationship with one of those girls you mentioned- but you will never know because you have impossible standards. No one will be perfect- not even Ms. Cuthert. Who knows what she is really like in real life. You just see her in movies and the media. But, you don't know what type of person she is. Instead of obsessing over a certain image, try to open yourself up to other people. And you even admitted that the bimbo girlfriend would get old, so why even limit yourself to that? What kind of friends do you have that would make fun of your GF for her looks, anyway? They should be happy that you are happy. A ditzy GF is even more shameful- in my books.

 

[Richey]

I was standing in the supermarket aisle to purchase the food for the week, anyhoo these two checkout girls are standing there going on about how they'd only seen 2 "really cute guys" for the whole day, and i'm standing there rolling my eyes thinking i'll be the third at least, its not a tragedy, no but seriously i'm thinking "save it for myspace" can't you make up interesting banter rather then the old cliched "boys" topic, life gets predictable like that though, i could tell they'd be the picky superficial types, you have to be perfect or you dont stand a chance, fookin waste of space .. ...

why do i even care, why am i even talking about this, WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?????!!!!???

 

[faithnomore]

I was standing in the supermarket aisle to purchase the food for the week, anyhoo these two checkout girls are standing there going on about how they'd only seen 2 "really cute guys" for the whole day, and i'm standing there rolling my eyes thinking i'll be the third at least, its not a tragedy, no but seriously i'm thinking "save it for myspace" can't you make up interesting banter rather then the old cliched "boys" topic, life gets predictable like that though, i could tell they'd be the picky superficial types, you have to be perfect or you dont stand a chance, fookin waste of space .. ...

why do i even care, why am i even talking about this, WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?????!!!!???

There seems to be way to much of that bs around. Just don't worry about those bit*hs, you dont need a woman like that anyway.

 

[dpr]

Remember, the prettiest girls have the best diseases.

Obviously when you don't know a person, on face value your standards are high (as there is no other form of attraction at a distance other than the physical). When you get to know somebody your standards are gradually eroded by your interest in the person's personality or the bond that inevitably develops. What I'm getting at is you may only want a beautiful girl because you have never experienced the attraction of a good personality, due to your anxiety inhibiting the development of a normal relationship.

very well said! that makes a lot of sense actually

 

[faithnomore]

I worry about people that are too picky or only set them self up for liking one type of person. I have known people like that and it really limits their opportunities of who they can date. I am not saying that you should date just any ol person, but perhaps you should change your standards just a tad.

Now on the other extreme, I really don't have a certain type (and maybe I should be a little more picky) as I have met some idiots, lol. I guess I am too open-minded sometimes about who to date. I don't have a certain look (and that's a good thing, IMO) because it has allowed me to meet all sorts of peole. And it allows me to look at the person- not their shell.

I really don't understand how someone can weigh so heavily on appearance. You could have been in a great relationship with one of those girls you mentioned- but you will never know because you have impossible standards. No one will be perfect- not even Ms. Cuthert. Who knows what she is really like in real life. You just see her in movies and the media. But, you don't know what type of person she is. Instead of obsessing over a certain image, try to open yourself up to other people. And you even admitted that the bimbo girlfriend would get old, so why even limit yourself to that? What kind of friends do you have that would make fun of your GF for her looks, anyway? They should be happy that you are happy. A ditzy GF is even more shameful- in my books.

In my honest opinion, women are more picky (as they have more options/chances). But an average guy has no chance, because women seem to want "the perfect guy". Men find loads of women "hot", but they aren't put off by your average female.

Average = dateable