After reading this thread, I could relate to you so much and I hope to someday have the same mindset as you do.
I want to continue my life as well - improve myself and love myself - see my 8 year relationship as a learning experience rather than a waste of time and a broken heart.
You are an inspiration for me.
Please keep on helping yourself, keep on growing and keep on living!
Lilke normally say, words go with the wind. But cant just pass away with this post without saying nothing at all. At least I want to say. I'm here. Lots of people are here. And we dont go anyway. Life sucks. Life sucks more to ppl with SP. However, things can go worst if u just give up now. Put all the progress in to the dump. Like I heard once, from lady gaga tattoo (not the best example i admitt)....NEVER A DEFEAT, ALWAYS A LESSON.
Try to get the best of it. Is tough to give up from a relation of so long. But ask for yourself what will i win from this if i just give up? Loose my job? Get another worst? Give reason to my ex-gf! Make a effort, try to change...try even harder!! Who knows, what tomorow brings u!
PS: I FUKING KNOW WHAT'S A DEBT...still know!! but like u i'm almost at the end...i believe u will start feeling better! Money dont buy everything...but sure helps!
i bet you're feeling alot better now, as time heals all wounds doesn't it....i also want to agree with what others are saying about the don't rely on others for happiness or strength, and i want to extend that even further to include careers aswell.
You should never convince yourself that having a 'top job' will mean your on the path to success or believe that its a huge self improvement in any way...because just like relationships, these can come and go.
i've been in that boat, and had the good paying jobs, and ive also gone on to loose them aswell. You see unfortuently, love it or hate it, we social phobes are more likely to loose our jobs because of this..its just a fact. You can't go on saying 'my life's gunna be so much better when i land that dream job'...don't let having a good job be what props up your self esteem...because what happens when its gone? you loose your self worth along with it. Don't put too much weight on having a good job, aswell as relationships....
being social phobes we just gotta learn to roll with the punches so to speak and somtimes just be contempt with the crappy jobs, knowing that its always gunna be hard to keep the btter ones...just likes its always gunna be hard for us to maintain long term relationships....its fine to be happy and feel lucky when we do actually find the good jobs or long lasting relationships..but just don't depend on them for your inner wellbeing or use them as a guage of how improved your social phobia is going.
yeah im goin though a break up too man... i feel ya, n i dont wanna discourage u at all, but for me i start feeling better like that but it doesn't last long. im no good without a girl!
if you need to have a setback, to make an even larger comeback.
You're a strong person, dpr. Truly an inspiration.
I'm glad you're feeling better! And stay strong x