namelessmiracle
Active member
Does anyone ever wonder what things happen in your lives that add to/cause our SA?
I figured I would share my thoughts on my life. Feel free to comment or add your own story!
So I was in therapy on Wednesday, and my therapist brought up a good point. She always tries to get to the root of the issues surrounding my social anxiety, and it always sends my mind spinning. I figure the best way to sort out my feelings is on here. I know others are dealing with similar issues, and it's just good not to feel alone. When I talk about my dad dying at 4, I show no emotion. When I talk about my mom trying to raise me while sick from HIV, I try to over compensate, trying to prove how good of a mom she was for what she could do. In my head I've made excuses year after year to try to normalize it in my mind. I think this contributes to my Social Anxiety.
Growing up I wasn't able to tell anyone outside my family what was going on. It was the 90's, everyone freaked out when they heard the word HIV. My dad was a closet heroin addict, and the bastard ended up infecting my mom. When he died, I was a 4 year old girl who literally saw him being put in a body bag and taken away. No child should watch that.
My mom was on hospice when I got a few years older, and almost died. There were years of hospital visits,nights of hallucinations and panic attacks....I had to parent my mother. I love her to death, and she's been a trooper for 23 years, but I have to admit to myself that she wasn't the best parent, but she did what she could. That hurts me to write.
When anyone outside of our family asked, I was expected to lie and say it was Cancer. This one fact, right here, is what I believe started my Social Anxiety. The fear of someone finding out my mom and dad had aids. The stigma attached to it was overwhelming. As a kid of course I didn't understand it, but went along with my family.
After a few years, I even began to believe the lies myself. At 13 I was writing a report on my dad, and I actually asked my mom what kind of cancer he died from.
I don't know what exactly I expected to get from this rant, I just felt the need to get some things off my chest.
This is also posted on my blog about Living with Social Anxiety. It is a blog to inform people about the growing number of individuals diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. I feel there are not adequate resources for people with this specific anxiety disorder. Many people feel alone and like they're the only ones suffering with these symptoms. I will post things about my daily life that cause my SAD to act up. I will talk about past and present issues. My goal is to help those who need answers, and help them to not feel alone. Feel free to ask if you have questions, want advice, or want to hear how I handled a tough situation.If you want to share your story, I'm here to listen. SAD will never go away, but together we can learn how to control it.
Please feel free to view my blog through tumblr or blogger
Living with Social Anxiety
Or
My Life with Social Anxiety Disorder
And again, I'm thankful to all of the support I'm getting in this forum
I figured I would share my thoughts on my life. Feel free to comment or add your own story!
So I was in therapy on Wednesday, and my therapist brought up a good point. She always tries to get to the root of the issues surrounding my social anxiety, and it always sends my mind spinning. I figure the best way to sort out my feelings is on here. I know others are dealing with similar issues, and it's just good not to feel alone. When I talk about my dad dying at 4, I show no emotion. When I talk about my mom trying to raise me while sick from HIV, I try to over compensate, trying to prove how good of a mom she was for what she could do. In my head I've made excuses year after year to try to normalize it in my mind. I think this contributes to my Social Anxiety.
Growing up I wasn't able to tell anyone outside my family what was going on. It was the 90's, everyone freaked out when they heard the word HIV. My dad was a closet heroin addict, and the bastard ended up infecting my mom. When he died, I was a 4 year old girl who literally saw him being put in a body bag and taken away. No child should watch that.
My mom was on hospice when I got a few years older, and almost died. There were years of hospital visits,nights of hallucinations and panic attacks....I had to parent my mother. I love her to death, and she's been a trooper for 23 years, but I have to admit to myself that she wasn't the best parent, but she did what she could. That hurts me to write.
When anyone outside of our family asked, I was expected to lie and say it was Cancer. This one fact, right here, is what I believe started my Social Anxiety. The fear of someone finding out my mom and dad had aids. The stigma attached to it was overwhelming. As a kid of course I didn't understand it, but went along with my family.
After a few years, I even began to believe the lies myself. At 13 I was writing a report on my dad, and I actually asked my mom what kind of cancer he died from.
I don't know what exactly I expected to get from this rant, I just felt the need to get some things off my chest.
This is also posted on my blog about Living with Social Anxiety. It is a blog to inform people about the growing number of individuals diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. I feel there are not adequate resources for people with this specific anxiety disorder. Many people feel alone and like they're the only ones suffering with these symptoms. I will post things about my daily life that cause my SAD to act up. I will talk about past and present issues. My goal is to help those who need answers, and help them to not feel alone. Feel free to ask if you have questions, want advice, or want to hear how I handled a tough situation.If you want to share your story, I'm here to listen. SAD will never go away, but together we can learn how to control it.
Please feel free to view my blog through tumblr or blogger
Living with Social Anxiety
Or
My Life with Social Anxiety Disorder
And again, I'm thankful to all of the support I'm getting in this forum