Getting a job.

Plissken

Active member
I've recently been given a deadline by my parents that I need to get a job. I'm 18, and I've never worked anywhere before. The reason they're really crackign down on me is because I dropped out of a community college without telling them and wasted their money and half a year of my life. I had been going for about 3 months when the pressure got to be too much and I just stopped going. I'd leave in the mornings and then just stay in my car or go to the library or something. I feel very horrible about doing this but I'm sure all of you understand how social anxiety can make going to class a living hell.

Well now, I need to get a job within a few weeks or I risk getting kicked out of the house. I've been going around and asking for applications, which is very stressful to me, and sometimes I leave the store before I ask anyone. Just the act of filling them out fills me with anxiety and a lot of the time I just can't go back and turn them in. I had an interview this morning to work at this bread bakery place and I feel like I did horrible. I'll feel bad if I don't end up getting the job, but even worse is if I did get the job. I don't know if I could handle working in a bakery like that around people all the time.

Please share your stories of your job searches and how you got used to working and how the experience was. I need some help. My parents don't understand why I won't get a job and think it's because I'm lazy. If I tell them about social anxiety, they tell me things like "get over it" or "be yourself."
 
Sorry you're having such a rough time with your parents, some people just don't understand SA.

Have you tried a temp agency? They can usually get you work somewhere doing 'paper pushing' type jobs that don't require too much social contact. Or you could try a cleaning job. Jumping straight into working in a shop could send your sa into over drive.

Hope things work out x
 

Emma

Well-known member
Have you tried a temp agency? They can usually get you work somewhere doing 'paper pushing' type jobs that don't require too much social contact.

I went through at temp agency because I couldn't find a job, you could get a job doing data entry, it sounds really boring but you can do that until you think you feel strong enough to find something else, and it's pretty easy to do anyway
 

arjuna

Well-known member
What you say about your parents thinking you are lazy because you don't want a job because you have SP is understandable but of course it is not true. My parents did the same thing. I also have the same anxiety shit going on a lot of the time when I am around people.

In my case, getting a job didn't really increase my anxiety or SP: it stayed the same. It was very stressful though. I think that if you make an effort to integrate in any society you will find out that you actually fit in. It may seem hard but I'm sure that it is possible.
 

nicki-s

Member
panic attacks have ruined my life!!

i am a 15 year old female, and for the last few months my life has been hell! i had to leave school and am now attending alternative education as i can't face been in a normal classroom with people. i am having therapy for them but it feels as though i am never going to get over them. things have become so bad that i can't be in public places or crowds. my friends have all forgotton about me as i can' even go out and enjoy being a normal teenager. my life feels as though it has ended. i sometimes lie awake at nite and feel really ill at the thought of going somewhere the next day. i have tried commiting suicide on a few occasions as i feel a sthough my life is going nowhere. i am trying to get my self confidence back as the fact i have been bullied in the past has contributed to my panic attacks and anxiety.
 

Shonen_Yo

Well-known member
Re: panic attacks have ruined my life!!

nicki-s said:
i am a 15 year old female, and for the last few months my life has been hell! i had to leave school and am now attending alternative education as i can't face been in a normal classroom with people. i am having therapy for them but it feels as though i am never going to get over them. things have become so bad that i can't be in public places or crowds. my friends have all forgotton about me as i can' even go out and enjoy being a normal teenager. my life feels as though it has ended. i sometimes lie awake at nite and feel really ill at the thought of going somewhere the next day. i have tried commiting suicide on a few occasions as i feel a sthough my life is going nowhere. i am trying to get my self confidence back as the fact i have been bullied in the past has contributed to my panic attacks and anxiety.

Sounds like my life :wink: I threw it all away and I'mt rying to get it back.
 

50cr4zy

New member
Try getting a job working outside. Construction, surveying, and research jobs don't require too much social interaction except with a small handful of co-workers. Also, if you are doing an interview for a job you really want, throw out the idea of doing an internship. It seemed to work for a lot of people I know. They work without pay for a few weeks, then end up getting hired. Good luck!
 
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