Sue said:
bummer i feel so stupid. all my life iv let people walk all over me. its all i know. so sick of it.
Being nice is a good thing, if people take advantage of your niceness then they're being stupid, not you.
The thing is, a lot of people are out for themselves and don't really care about everyone they meet. They have a hierarchy of people they feel are "worth" their time. I don't like the way a lot of people work, so I try to be pleasant to everyone I meet and treat them like they're "worth" my time. I can never understand whether I
should be doing this or not, given how many people do the opposite :? I've worked out recently that some with some people, you're never going to get along well with them, and giving them the benefit of the doubt all the time and being nice to them is not always the best course of action, even though it is a good thing that we want to be nice to everyone.
I dunno if that makes any sense. It doesn't make much sense to me, because a lot of the time I feel a great amount of jealous hatred for other people too, lol

You might think that you're going to get a reputation for being a quiet arsehole if you start changing your behaviour, but that won't be the case, believe me, even if some people try to make out it is (they usually will).