Vanialo28 said:
Well, I think that if an individual is having sex with multiple partners he's hurting himself. To be happy we need to have a feeling of personal dignity, self-worth, and self-respect. If a person humiliates himself to serve merely as a means of satistying a random person he's just attracted to, he won't be very proud of himself, I'm sure. But most importantly, if he doesn't respect himself, he won't be able to respect others either.
All of those statements are true as long as one holds the preconceived view that sex before marriage or with numerous different partners is a humiliating, degrading activity. If you are degraded, or humiliated by sex then yes, it probably would be quite desirable to not have sex. That this mindset is a self destructive, irrational and neurotic attitude is exactly my point.
In reality (before you are exposed to religion and other BS societal stuff) safe, responsible sex between two fully consenting people is not at all degrading or humiliating in any way whatsoever. Mental conditioning is what causes us to associate horrible feelings with sex whether it be sex before marriage, having sex too often, having sex with too many people, or just having sex at all. You can make any young child horribly ashamed and fearful of absolutely anything through simple psychological conditioning.
It is laughably easy to see this phenomenon of the demonization of sex and glorification of violence in our society. You can witness a dudes head exploding on network TV just about any time of the day but the mild sex scenes in the same movie which tastefully shows a booby for a split second will NEVER see air time. Unless of course the network wants insane numbers of lawsuits filed against them by parents accusing the TV of corrupting their childrens minds by showing them a boob. I am not saying young kids need to be seeing violence OR boobs but the point is the clearly ridiculous over demonization of sex and complete lack of intelligent perspective our society has surrounding sex.
Common sense needs to be applied when we discuss other scenarios where sex may be genuinely harmful to one or the other individual. It clearly goes against common sense for anyone to think they are obligated to 'give' their body to someone when they have no interest in sex; not sure if that is what you were talking about.
Once again, we only need to refer to the golden rule: (which exists in societies with no religion whatsoever) treat others as you would want to be treated. There are not many if any better examples than the act of sex where two people can treat each other to such a mutually positive ecstacy inducing experience (assuming you both know what you are doing of course).