hardy
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We ALL LIKE TO HEAR OURSELVES praised but unfortunately most of the the time we only
hear about our faults. That's fair,I suppose,because most of the time we only
speak about the faults of others. We hardly ever speak praise. Try listening to your
self speaking.
Without praise, without positive reinforcement of good qualities, those qualities
wither and die. But a little bit of praise is a grandstand of encouragement.
We all want to hear ourselves praised; we just want to be sure about what we have to
do to hear it.
I once read in a magazine about a therapy group that used positive reinforcement for
young children who had a rare eating disorder. Whenever these children ate solid food,
they would vomit it up almost immediately.When any child managed to keep a morsel
of food down for a minute or more, the group would throw a party. The parents would
put on paper hats and stand on the chairs shouting and clapping;the nurses would
dance and throw colored streamers;someone would play the child's favourite
music. There was suddenly a huge celebration, with the child who had kept their
food down the center of it all.
The children began to keep their food down longer and longer. The sheer delight
at being the cause of such happiness rewired their nervous systems. Those children
wanted prasie that much.
So do we.
Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?: Inspiring Stories for Welcoming Life's ... - Ajahn Brahm - Google Books
hear about our faults. That's fair,I suppose,because most of the time we only
speak about the faults of others. We hardly ever speak praise. Try listening to your
self speaking.
Without praise, without positive reinforcement of good qualities, those qualities
wither and die. But a little bit of praise is a grandstand of encouragement.
We all want to hear ourselves praised; we just want to be sure about what we have to
do to hear it.
I once read in a magazine about a therapy group that used positive reinforcement for
young children who had a rare eating disorder. Whenever these children ate solid food,
they would vomit it up almost immediately.When any child managed to keep a morsel
of food down for a minute or more, the group would throw a party. The parents would
put on paper hats and stand on the chairs shouting and clapping;the nurses would
dance and throw colored streamers;someone would play the child's favourite
music. There was suddenly a huge celebration, with the child who had kept their
food down the center of it all.
The children began to keep their food down longer and longer. The sheer delight
at being the cause of such happiness rewired their nervous systems. Those children
wanted prasie that much.
So do we.
Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?: Inspiring Stories for Welcoming Life's ... - Ajahn Brahm - Google Books