Finding job

[Anonymous]

This is going to seem strange to some people. I am male, 49 and have been married for 25 years with 4 grown up children. For the last 16 years, I have run a mobile disco at weekends, making not much money, and not doing any other job during the week; avoiding one due to S.F, depression etc. While doing the disco I'm fine. I go in the venue, set up the gear, do the job and leave. I have very little direct social contact up on stage. On stage, I'm a different person (wth the help of a few pints). Off stage, I have no friends. As i'm not making much money doing 1 gig a week, I need to get a weekday job. And I'm terrified. It all started when my father died when I was 20. I didn't greive at the time, and continued going out, meeting girls and bottling it in. Two years later, I started having Panic attacks in the canteen at work, wanting to run out. My so-called workmate spotted this, and teased me unrelentingly. Finally, I snapped and had a nervous breakdown and wasn't able to hold down a regular job since then.
How do I get the confidence to go back in a regular job?

 

[eka82]

Hello Melv,

First you must tell yourself that it's not that bad. Think positive thoughts. Think of it as an adventure. See yourself as performing awesome. Whenever those negative thoughts of impending doom creep in beat it down with something positive. Tell yourself you've done it before and you certainly can do so again. Afterall you weren't always this way. You can fight it and win.

Also this is something that always helps: A properly defined goal.

Knowing precisely what you want and how to go about getting it will drastically boost your confidence. Because SA or no SA your mind will find ways for you to achieve your goals. It's important that you write it down; the goals and how you are gooin to achieve them and what you need to do to do so.

Also try to find a job that suits you, it could be something related to what you're doing now or perhaps something you've always wanted to do. Whatever you go for, check it out and make sure you're confortable with it and can excell in it.

Don't put unncessary pressure on yourself to perform. Go at your own pace and go easy on yourself.

I'm sorry, I'm not in the job industry to suggest any compatible with SA's. But I'm confident whatever you do decide to do and you make the best of it relative to your abilities, you'll definitely succeed. :wink: It's up to you to take that first step. We're rooting for you!

I wish you all the best. Do let us know how it goes. 8)

 

[spacecadet]

hello

I sympathise with you. I suffer with psychotic episodes and SA and mOOD DISORder. I had one nervous breakdown at age 18 and didn't have one again till age 28. I used to get panic attacks at work (temp secretary). It was a nightmare. Seroxat pretty much cleared up the panic and the depression. I had to wait 2 years before I found the right antipyschotic. I am now back at work with two part time jobs. But It took 2 years to get well again. I don't know if you suffer from psychosis so maybe you don't have it as bad. Are you happy to take meds. They can help alot. Also positive thinking.
Good luck. Things will get better with the right attitude.

 

[Anonymous]

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me. What a great and helpful web-site this is! Thanks again!

 

[mikebird]

What type events have you done so far with your system?

What equipment do you have?

What do you play?

 

[vj288]

Hey Mike, just so you know, this thread is 7 years old and none of the users above are active anymore, so you're probably not going to get a reply.

 

[goldatom]

Oh darn I didn't notice too. But I think encouraging thoughts and advices are worth regurgitating

 

[hoddesdon]

Surprisingly, I think mikebird is now winning the prize for the most arcane thread-revival (I can't talk of course). This thread was created only two months after the website went on-air.

 

[Remus]

Bah, should have a necro thread rule like all the other forums on the net