feeling down without reason

[Tryin]

i need help. feel so much down. hardly can breathe. nervous. terrible. depressed. desperately want to cry but can not. having actually no special reason (well i am alone at home and tomorrow have to go spend a weekend with one enviromental organization. there are going to be people who knows each other well and i will be the only one not knowing nearly anyone - but i know that would be fine and except that everything's good). i WANT to be happy. tried listening to music, doing housework (which always calms me down and makes me feel confident with myself), even drinking tee - and still feel sooo bad.

 

[Jack-B]

You can feel at peace when you experience your pain. It is challenging but because you want to be happy you want rid of your pain now. This actually causes so much more pain. Where is the pain coming from, where is it located, what is it? Try finding where it is coming from.

You can create a lot of happiness for your self by using this experience of pain and depression to improve your self for the future. Or you can continue to be unhappy. Unfortunatley, that is the choice we all have.

Try to rest. Negative self evalutation happens before, during and after these types of events, this is what you are most likely experiencing. So many what ifs and attacking your self, im not good enough etc. Just rest your self and let go of your thoughts, they are momentary, fleeting. Holding onto thoughts like this is like holding on to barbed wire thats being pulled through our hands.

The depression will still be there but it lifts eventually.

Sending love

Jack

 

[SouthernBelle]

The only thing i can tell you is that it will lift, and going away this weekend will probably force you to feel better, socialise and have a good time! Keep your chin up and dont beat yourself up.
Sometimes when we feel bad we do lots of things that would usually make us feel better. Then we wonder why we dont feel better and its a circle. Take some time out to have a nice bath, relax and watch a movie that you enjoy, try to be at peace. This will pass and you'll learn from this 'setback' how to get yourself out of the next one.

 

[SouthernBelle]

The only thing i can tell you is that it will lift, and going away this weekend will probably force you to feel better, socialise and have a good time! Keep your chin up and dont beat yourself up.
Sometimes when we feel bad we do lots of things that would usually make us feel better. Then we wonder why we dont feel better and its a circle. Take some time out to have a nice bath, relax and watch a movie that you enjoy, try to be at peace. This will pass and you'll learn from this 'setback' how to get yourself out of the next one.

 

[hans1]

Happiness comes in the form of a pill.

 

[Tryin]

thanks for your posts. i am fine now. actually, i started to feel better immediately after posting that post. the weekend was fine. everything is fine.

wish a nice day to everyone :wink:

 

[Quixote]

thanks for your posts. i am fine now. actually, i started to feel better immediately after posting that post. the weekend was fine. everything is fine.

wish a nice day to everyone :wink:

After many posts seen on this board about lifelong struggles, finally one quick recovery :wink:

Hope you keep feeling good!

 

[Tryin]

hah quixote, i am afraid there are no quick recoveries i feel good right now but i never know when the awful what-it-is comes again. need some balance - now is it like one minute i feel and another .nothing between. quite frightening sometimes, huh :?

 

[Waybuloo]

i need help. feel so much down. hardly can breathe. nervous. terrible. depressed. desperately want to cry but can not. having actually no special reason (well i am alone at home and tomorrow have to go spend a weekend with one enviromental organization. there are going to be people who knows each other well and i will be the only one not knowing nearly anyone - but i know that would be fine and except that everything's good). i WANT to be happy. tried listening to music, doing housework (which always calms me down and makes me feel confident with myself), even drinking tee - and still feel sooo bad.

The only advice i can give you is to try as hard as possible to go into the social situation with a positive attitude, which, being hard to do, should be aimed for neutral at least. Because when ur socialising others would get more put off by ur negativity and that would reinforce ur negative beliefs about urself.

I'm speaking from personal experience. I've just came back from a party, where there were some high school people i havnet' seen in ages and weren't close to in the first place, and they all seem to be put off by me. I can't connect with anyone cause of me looking tired, depressed, unenergetic and unfun. Oh and i cried just before i went so i must've had puffy red eyes too. I jsut wasn't up for it but thought what the heck, a social exercise.

Or well i just read that u had a good time, happy for ya at least u had it better than me.

 

[SYNAPSE]

I wonder if there's really an answer. Our circumstances are difficult.

I seem to have very violent mood swings (especially when it comes to wanting to give up on everything and the like) apparently triggered by unimportant things - details bringing about perspective-changing chain reactions.
The better I feel at some point, the worse I'll end up feeling afterwards.
This is particularily scary now that I've fallen in love with someone I won't be seeing for the following months if ever.

Acknowledging the nature of the situation doesn't help me when I see hell because then I'm confident I've been deceived and have been deceiving myself all along.